Finding comfort in the DD world

[greyartist]

When the real world starts to fall apart. I wish I could just disappear in my daydream. Just found out my husband of 16yrs has a girlfriend. A girl from highschool that he reconnected with on facebook and has been texting. He meet her saturday night at a coffee shop to comfort her after she left her husband. He swears there has not been any other contact but he has "feelings" for her. He assures me he has no plans of leaving me. WTF!!!! then why tell me all this crap? Now I feel horrible, I don't know if I believe him or trust him going forward. I don't think she will give up after leaving her marriage, so it may just be a matter of time.

The last week he had been telling me I was cold to him but I didn't think i had been now I think it was his guilty concious. He starts off by asking me if I ever had feelings for anyone else during our marriage, well NO. He wanted me to say yes so he wouldn't feel bad about it. The strange thing is now that I need to escape into my DD I'm having trouble DDing. I have no friend I can tell this to, I have to keep it all inside except for posting here to vent. I just don't know what to do.

[Elizabeth]

I'm so sorry, I hope things will work out. I am praying for you if you don't mind. Just don't bottle it all up. Explain to him how you are feeling and that him contacting this person makes you uncomfortable. He should understand as your husband - I doubt he'd want you hanging out with another guy. Keep the communication open, he may have been feeling left out and alone from your pulling away. He has  been with you for several years, so he does love and care for you I'm sure. We're here for you.

(This is why I think Facebook causes unnecessary drama sometimes... )