Day 1- Enough is Enough! MDD and people stop controling my life today.

[Ray Sandhu]

Hi guys I am starting a thread of blogs, to show you my progress as I overcome MDD, I have done extensive research to have the blueprint of success in overcoming this unproductive act( I know some people may be okay with DDing) but this is holding me back from reaching my full potential. To go along with MDD, I have had a really low self-esteem and acted out as the "nice guy" and let people take my kindness for granted and walk all over me( this includes my ex gf, my ex  friends, co-workers). Im putting an end to this, Im tired of selling myself short in many aspects of my life and having such little respect for myself. So of March 28th, 2013, with the help of a therapist and strict schedule to stay busy, productive and have fun, I am going to overcome this once and for all. Along the way, I am going to keep progress for any of my fellow  DDers who want to overcome there dilemmas as a source of inspiration or of insight, that it is possible to conquer or limit our MDD.

 

 

[Ray Sandhu]

taffle, I know where your coming from, I always let people walk around me, so lik my ex everytime  she fucked up and she did something wrong, she always tried to convince me I was somehow responsible for her fault, so I was given the blame. And for a 2 years almost, I constantly put up with it, being labelled as the "bad" guy, it really broke me. But now Im out of it, I realize, you should be glad people disagree with what you believe or think, cause that means you in your right are unique and stand up for what you believe. too many people, in our world go through life just conforming to others like i did, and at the end of it, I realize, sure I fit in when i conformed to other peoples thoughts and opinions. But everytime I didn't stand up and express what I think, in reality I was betraying myself, and when you betray yourself, happiness is very hard to come by, so I know its difficult, but be vocal with what you think and believe, and honestly that should shape the people around you. I know its scary, but at this point in my life I would rather stand up for myself and be alone if I have too, then do nothing and agree just so I have people who don't even see the real me. Be you, and love yourself man, cause I am learning the hard way, if you don' stand up for yourself, the world 10/10 times will gladly knock us around and break us.

[taffle]

I have the same problem too. I have trouble saying no to other people, especially the more assertive / aggressive ones. If I have an opinion and someone else has a different opinion, I just relent to the other person's opinion and go along with it. Because I wasn't able to stand my ground, people think I'm wishy-washy, but really I tried too hard to fit in. I am afraid of pissing other people off.

[Silla Bakht]

Best of Luck .May be you will be my source of inspiration and i also stop it .