Is there anyone else who can't daydream about real people?

[Truthful Alibi]

So there's this guy in my class who I have a crush on, I shouldn't because I have a boyfriend, but our relationship's going nowhere so...

Anyway, getting back to the point, I thought that maybe I should use my MD to my advantage and daydream about him being my boyfriend so I don't upset him (he got dumped by his girlfriend today). But when I tried to, I found that I couldn't daydream properly. It wasn't as enjoyable as it normally is, and it didn't seem as real as my other daydreams. I can still DD like normal, only I can't daydream about real  life people. i've never tried to before, probably because I didn't know anyone in real life properly, let alone have a crush on them. Is there anyone else out there who can't daydream about real people?

[Cordellia Amethyste Rose]

I work the occasional celebrity into my daydreams but only has minor characters.  I can never make real people regular characters.  It just feels too weird to me.  I've tried in the past, but it never works out.

[debbie downer]

i can't add people i know in real life into my daydream world because it makes it weird, but i can daydream about them separately if that makes sense. when i daydream about people i know in real life, i daydream like any normal person that doesn't have MD would. there is no pacing, and the daydream doesn't continue on and on like a neverending story. i don't daydream like this a lot, but i do sometimes. it is the complete opposite when i daydream about my regular daydream... it has characters that i have made up that could be BASED on celebrities or people that i know in real life, but they aren't the actual person. this daydream goes on and on like a neverending story and i pace when i daydream about it.

[Drake]

I'm the exact same way, I always need to be making up people. Mostly because I feel like I'm not getting the characterizations right if I daydream about real people. As a writer that's my one huge pet peeve x3

[thetxbelle]

I have a hard time even lecturing the faces of real people I know or try and focus on sometimes, it's really frustrating. 

[thetxbelle]

I meant picturing, my iPhone autocorrected the word

thetxbelle said:

I have a hard time even lecturing the faces of real people I know or try and focus on sometimes, it's really frustrating. 

[Skylar Grey]

yes i know exactly what you mean. I just cant have a proper daydream if someone i know is in it. I just think it would be awckward to look them in the eye after fantasizing about them. Celebrities arent a problem for me. Oh and also daydreaming is my escape, and its hard to escape if people from the real world are interfering. but thats just me

[Angel]

Its not that I can't use real people, just that I don't like to.

 

I could daydream that my fiance is here with me having a romantic evening when he's not, but that would feel weird to me.  Even though I know the types of things he would say and do, I would be the one making him say and do those things and that doesn't feel right to me.  Instead, if that is the sort of daydream I'm craving then I will have two of my characters have a romantic evening.

 

On the other hand, having any type of daydream involving an acquaintance or a co-worker or someone like that would feel weird having to see them afterward.  Even if it where something completely innocent.

 

Then there are celebrities.  I used to daydream about celebrity crushes.  The last time I did that it got out of control and hurt the person I was dating at the time (12 yrs ago.)  I was so obsessed that I was trying to put the celebrity's attributes on to my real life partner.  It ended up making him feel inferior and hurt him deeply.  I didn't realize it until after the relationship was over.  There were other problems in the relationship, but my celebrity daydream hurt it just as much.  I don't ever want to do that to anyone else.

 

What I will do is sometimes borrow characters from books and such.  Maybe change them a little.  They are fictional just like my own made up characters.  Its never posed a problem for me.

[The Altruist]

cris r said:

im the exact opposite. I cant daydream about people or situations that Im not involved with in real life.

:) I'm pretty much the same dude, except I can daydream about celebrities or what have you.

[roxanne]

It's interesting to me to realize how few real life people I have fantasized about - maybe 2 or 3.  But I also never make them up from scratch, which sounds like a wonderful gift to me.  My characters are all based on celebrities from movies, T.V., music or sports or else characters from books or movies.  And then I modify them, but I can't totally go against anything that happens in real life, which presents it's own(sometimes pretty painful) problems.

[Ellen]

I never daydreamed about people from real life until last year, when I developed a crush on a guy and started daydreaming about him and his family sometimes.

In the end, I think it comes down to conscious choice vs. unconscious choice, not whether the person is real or imaginary.  I have found that I can't force myself to daydream about something.  Several years ago, when I had daydreams based on books, I tried to change my daydreams to incorporate characters from a different series.  I also tried to make up my own "series" with my own characters to daydream about.  It never worked; the daydreams never felt natural.  When my mind latches on to a character, that character will naturally become a part of my daydreams. Otherwise, it never works.

[Petunia]

I didn't know how to make a new topic, but I am new here and to this whole diagnosis - I had NO idea this was a real disorder. I thought I was odd and a freak . I still think I am a bit crazy, but am beside myself that I am not alone! :-)

 

Onto this topic, my characters/dreams are not based on anybody I know or even scenarios. All made up.

 

ps:  Any way to talk to others via e-mail?