Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Everything that I have read about MD says it probably starts as a reaction to some sort of traumatic event in one's childhood...as a coping mechanism or something.
As far as my memory can tell, I have not suffered such an event BEFORE I can remember starting to daydream. I had the happiest childhood anyone could ask for - an amazing sibling, wonderful parents, good friends, pets, a roof over my head, etc.
Maybe it started because I had a hard time making friends at school? I didn't have that many friends in elementary school...but I did have some friends.
If you feel comfortable sharing, do you think you know WHY it started?
Hi, JoAnna. Dr. Eli Somer, who coined the term, thought it started as a result of trauma.........but he had only 6 study participants. We've learned a lot since then. While many do start after trauma, many also say they started for other reasons. I think that our brains are just like this, and certain things like trauma can perhaps trigger it or make it worse. I was screamed at and traumatized all my life.............but it honestly feels like I've just always been like this, and that only pushed me in further. I think my brain just needs constant stimulus and prefers internal stimuli over external stimuli. I'm not sure there has to be a trigger per se. I think it's just how our brains are & certain things can push us in further.
Either way, you are definitely not the only one who wasn't traumatized. That's an out-dated conclusion. You can have a perfect life with no trauma and be a daydreamer.
I don"t think I ever experienced any trauma, but I started daydreaming at such an early age & it was so compelling. I don't feel it has interfered with my life. As a therapist of 30 years, I would advise Days Go By to not tell everything to new relationship, but ease into it. It is nothing to be ashamed of, but someone needs to know who you are before they hear all this, and then go forward with the relationship .
Cordelia, I so agree with you on this. It is a gift - one that others may not appreciate as such, but no less so for that. Because others may not get it, I think it's a good idea to go slow & guage their reactions, but never apologize. Your own reaction to your gift also weighs in here,Days Go By. If you are ashamed of it, you will present it in that way. Stay on this website - you may get the healthiest therapy you are going to find.
Cordelia, are you familiar with Ted Andrews, part Native American psychic, story-teller, and shape-shifter.(He recently passed away). Anyway, he says when animals come into your life, they bring gifts, lessons and/or warnings. Groundhog is particularly interesting, and crossed paths with one right after finding your website. He represents the power of dreaming. He represents the ability to get deep within an area of interest, cutting off all other distractions. They hibernate 4-6 montha a year. Hibernation represents dreaming, but also death without dying - a very powerful thing. Groundhog, according to Ted Andrews , is a symbol of opening fully to the dreamtime , and using the power & clarity of this altered state. Many mystics call on his power to slow down metabolism & go into trance , so they can leave the body, but continue to leave the body protected. What a powerful totem.