Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
For me, it's gotten better. But I find that my mind has found other ways to avoid the real world. The main thing I'm fighting now is procrastination. (I'm 26)
Gotten better? no not really I am just more organized about it, like I try very hard to control it during working hours, basically counting down the minutes till I get my daydreaming time back. So I complete my work and then I am free to daydream. I don't have kids and I am not married, I can focus at work but I don't think it would be fair to my children or spouse if I was not focused on them like they deserve, so I don't plan on entering that part of my life unless I find a way to stop or to significantly decrease my daydreaming. At this point in my life I am too selfish to do that and cannot control this very well so I don't want to have children until I am ready.
For me, it has gotten worse. As I am facing more and more demands from life (professionally, relationship-wise) I feel the pull to escape more and more. When I'm not battling DDs, I am often procrastinating. It is very hard to control it during working hours and the pressure I'm under is a lot worse than when I was a student. I hardly ever got that itch that I really really need and have to daydream, something that I get now every once in a while.
I have always viewed my daydreaming as a very positive aspect of my life, especially considering that I have a lot of mental problems that make it impossible for me to live like a normal, independent adult. Daydreaming has given my life the richness that I can't experience through living more proactively.
Unfortunately, I find that the older I get, the less intense my daydreaming becomes. I have to consciously choose to enter my fantasy world as opposed to practically living there as I did when I was a child. I am also increasingly unsatisfied with the content of my daydreams, because I have become a perfectionist who looks at every daydream through the lens of a harsh critic instead of enjoying my own creativity.
I would happily trade places with anyone who daydreams compulsively and enjoys the content of their daydreams instead of constantly scrutinizing it.
There was a point when I was a teenager that it was really bad, and I would spend all day in my room daydreaming, but now I am older I don't have as much time for daydreaming, especially when I have to try and focus on the kids. Generally now its just when I am in bed at night, when I am walking anywhere or at home alone doing chores. My daydreams have become more complicated though, for the last two and a half years, I have had the same daydream world and it has expanded into a load of characters with their own complicated stories and continuity.
Not sure. I've told my mom I daydream a lot and she said she was like that when she was younger, but has changed since then like after having a family and stuff. And she also keeps really busy so idk. Hopefully it becomes less prominent for me. I would rather be fully engaged in life. But I mean she might not have had maladaptive daydreaming, but just daydreaming here and there so who knows.