Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Do you have a trigger that's really frustrating?
I personally enjoy my daydreaming habit. It's never caused me any major disruption, aside from the occasional zoning out and losing a little time.
But I've found that one of my triggers is the boredom of driving. That's the worst possible time to daydream! In fact, today, I entirely missed a turn because I was up in my own little world, playing out a pretty fun super hero story in my head.
Since learning about MD and the triggers I was able to recognize driving as one of my triggers. I find it really boring, and it's easy to put myself on auto pilot. For the first week after learning about MD, I tried really hard not to daydream by listening to NPR and just recognizing when I started to drift off. By the second week I was already indulging in my inner world.
Anyone else have an annoying trigger like that?
Boredom seems to be a strong trigger for many, but I find that even if I am bored to tears it will be harder to daydream if there is someone talking directly to me. During lectures I would just feel physically sick with boredom in my body.
I used to daydream in the car a lot, when I was being driven to school or to other activities as a kid, it stayed. I find transports or commutes trigger my daydream, especially since I try to isolate myself from other people there with music. (and music is a strong trigger for many people here).
Boredom is a huge trigger for me, among a few others.
I feel you on the lectures. I remember phasing out and completely missing a few sections of a lecture. It never affected my grades and I was able to catch up so didn't think much of it back then.
Music. Also just random things that I observe that I think are cool to incorporate in my dreams.
Haha The1andonlyAbber, you sound like me when I was in school.
Some of my classes in uni are a really frustrating trigger. I just don't know what else I can do not to feel so bored. And if I haven't had enough sleep, my DD becomes much more intense.
I remember when I was at school I spent the whole lessons making up those 'stories'.
Another thing is walking. When I go somewhere on foot, it's very hard for me to stop daydreaming.
I have a LOT of triggers, but the only one that really bothers me is schoolwork. It's awfully hard for me to concentrate on lessons because school is so boring most of the time, and then when the teacher finally says something interesting I feel compelled to use what I've just learned to invent something new for my daydreams. I have high standardized test scores but regular schoolwork is really hard for me so my parents always accuse me of not trying. :-(
I have the same. in fact, the more simpler the homework, the more I will be slowed down. And oh I hate that! I hate that! I hate that! I HATE THAT SO MUTCH!!! My parents have been acusing me of being lazy and not trying for the most part of my life, yelling stupid phrases such as "DO YOUR BEST BETTER!" whene I tried to explain them that it was not on purpose and I was doing the best I could. I specificly hated that one phrase: 'do your best better'. good -> better -> best, "there is nothing more than best!" I used to think. Made me realy angry and realy realy sad and hopeless because my parents had no faith in me. It wasn't untill I was taken to a psychologist a year ago that it changed (at least for homework)
They were normal lessons where I would teach bettter study methods so I could improve my speed. None of the methods helped (back than we had no idea yet that is was MD that was slowing me down) and finaly one session she (the psychologist) suddenly said: "Its not bad that it isn't working well, you're doing all you can and you can't do better than your best." Out of nowhere I bursted into tears. I couldn't stop it. I never cried that hard, and I completely surprised the psychologist, who had no idea what just happend.
The psychologist finaly convinced my parrents of my efforts. immediatly there was a change. I am still shocked that they never took my word for it, but immediatly believed that psychologist that they hadn't met before.
This realy is one of the worst feelings there is; doing all you can and being shouted at for not being good enough, even by your own parents :'(
I want you to know that no one can know how you feel, and how hard you work. Don't mind what the others say. They aren't you, they have their gifts and talents and some of them never had to work, never had to fight, like you did a single day in their lives. If you say you try, than I believe that! And I, and many others, will be there for you if you succeed, and more importantly whene you fail. Even if you fail fifty times in a row and just keep on failing to the end of your lives. I have faith in you!
(sorry for getting a bit too emotional here)
@Roel Van Rossen wow, thanks!
You're welcome ;), I ment that.
Yes, boredom is a strong trigger for MD. It's not a good idea to daydream while you are driving, because even though there is the feeling that you are in control, your reflexes are not as good as when you pay full attention. If for example you are driving home and a kid jumps in front of you, there are less chances that you will react properly if you daydream. You have been just lucky that nothing happened until now, but I'd advice you to change and improve your power of focus immediately.
Ugh, almost everything seems to be a trigger. Walking, driving alone, going to the bathroom at work, doing mindless chores, listening to podcasts, watching TV/movies... seemingly anytime my conscious mind is passive or idle.
Daydreaming while driving is the scariest. As for "annoying," I don't know about you guys, but I frequently have to "rewind" videos I'm watching back to before the line of dialogue that caused me to completely tune out. Sometimes I have to do this two or three times because I keep getting distracted! What a waste of time.