yeee buddddyyyyyyyyy

[Darren]

yeeee budddyyyy  i went to my cognitive behavioral therapist today (first session). and it turns out that i don't have maladaptive daydreaming and instead that I have an active mind. A really active mind.

I forgot to ask her what the difference between md and an active mind is but i will ask her next time.

anyways she said that i use md as a way to escape boredom and that people with md are always daydreaming. I only daydream when i am bored and doing something that doesnt force me to concentrate. 

i explained to her that i mostly daydream about my past conversations with people and about my life in general and my life in the future. i daydream about the meaning of life and just...life...

people with md actually make up characters in their head and that they have an idealized version of themselves

i have an idealized version of myself in my head but thats what my goal in life is...to be that idealized version of myself...to make it reality... i will jump around my room while listening to music but thats just because i have a really active mind...not because of md and she said that i use marijuana as a way of self medicating myself...to make me a more mellow person and she said that this will affect me negatively in the future. 

i dont make up characters in my head like ted and tommy and whatever...it seems weird that you guys pretty much have imaginary friends...but hey, im not judging 

anyways she said that i should talk to my doctor about prescribing short acting Dexedrine capsules (concentration pills that only last 6 hours) and this way i won't burn out like when  i take dexedrine that lasts 12 hours. 

i have a goal in life...always have.... and it seems to me that a lot of you guys dont know what you want in life and that you use daydreaming as a way of escaping problems of reality 

if you read my blog posts lol lol lol i've probably said this like  a million times... you will see my hypothesis of  reducing md by accomplishing your daydreams!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and to do this you need to ask yourself what you want in life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!and to go out of your house and just do shit!!!!!!!!!!! fuck daydreaming repeat after me!!!! fuck daydreaming!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!fuck daydreaming fuck daydreaming fuck daydreaming 

FUCK DAYDREAMING 

FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK DAYDREAMING ITS SO FUCKING WORTHLESS FUCKING PIECE OF SHIT DAYDREAMING 

do shit with your life do shit just go out and do shit just do it fuck fantasy theirs no fucking such thing 

go get a therapist, talk to your parents about your daydreaming just do shit go to the gym, get a job, go to school just do it just do it people just do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ask yourself!!!! why do i daydream!!!! what do i daydream about!! is what i daydream about what i want in reality?????? and if it is then go out of your house!!!! just go out into the world please people please people please just go out into the world just pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee go outside!! theirs so much out there!!!!!

look at people, try chatting up random people, eavesdrop on people's conversations and you'll see theirs so much meaning to life 

life is what you make it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! life is what you make it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and daydreaming is the complete opposite of life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!so say after me, "FUCK DAYDREAMING!" 

[Darren]

also, i never had social phobia or schizophrenia or any extreme traumatic events happen in my life so I can't relate to some of you 

[Darren]

i guess that's for someone with a disease to decide 

if you have a disease, you should be taking medication for it...well hopefully...

the best thing to do is to see a doctor or a cognitive behavioral therapist about your daydreaming 

however, when i told my doctor about my daydreaming and focusing problems, all she did was give me random medicines to try 

but when i saw a therapist, she told me that i didn't even have md, that it was bad of me to self diagnose myself 

i just have an active mind so whenever im slightly bored, i'll use daydreaming as a way of escaping reality and passing time 

the therapist told me what medication the doctor should give me (short acting dexedrine) but i haven't gotten the prescription yet so when i get it i will report back if it helps 

[KwanKwan]

Dear Darren,

but what if your sick(as in disease)? Then what?

Would that person be able to do those things on a daily basis?  :/

[Chris French]

I have in a way "triumphed" over my MD, but the cost is sometimes overwhelming. I decided to end my(intense) fantasies around the time I was 12 years old, as it was beginning to distress me, but it was nearly impossible. I did stop the fantasy that was causing me distress, and I have truly accomplished so much, but it took a long time. As of right now, I use a fantasy identity occasionaly when I'm bored or dissatisfied( far more tame than the distressing fantasy), but it causes no dysfunction, and I'm even using that less and less as I like who I am more and more. However, ending my former daydreams the way I did ignited a sometimes intense mental OCD that refuses to leave despite what caused it now being completely gone. I guess I just mean, be carweful how you attempt to control your daydreams, because it might leave scars you can't even know,

[Darren]

md can be a way of escaping your fears...you have to find out  the underlying reason... 

[Darren]

yes no one said stopping md was going to be easy because if it was then a lot of you wouldn't still be here (a few people have stories about how they have almost completely conquered md and these stories are great)

i don't even have md but i tend to have an 'active mind' and sometimes its hard for me to bring up the courage and confidence to start and maintain a good conversation but i figured i might as well try my best and go out of my comfort zones because the more i do it, the better i will get and the more...proud i will be of myself... 

there seems to be a lot of underlying issues for some of you guys like my therapist said md is usually from a a traumatic experience and i can't say i've ever been sexually abused or involved in a fatal car crash or anything...its horrible that some of you guys had to go through that and so i feel like md is a result of this...a result of you wanting to not experience a certain reality of something 

but again md can be about the goals you want to achieve and so its all different for everyone 

like what m hunter said in one of his blogs... if you don't know what you want in life you will never achieve anything

because to have tried to succeed and failed is failing but to have never tried to succeed is to have never failed 

[taffle]

You make it sound so easy, going out and socializing with others and just doing things. But I think there are deeper issues underlying my MD, because I have social phobia as well as avpd. I get hypervigilant in public. I need to fix those underlying problems before I can fix MD, that's what I think.

[Futur5]

Wow the part ''I day dream about the meaning of life'' same with me.I also have an idealized version of myself in my head same that what goal want to achieve in life......haha it seems you giving me more encouragement to fully stop MD.I always do hope myself to change and live in reality life to achieve goal :D

 

[rose]

I believe it is not easy too. I have tried many times to do what you said. and I stopped for a period of time then I felt something pulling me to daydreaming again. maybe you feel it is easy because you do not have the same problem. I have imaginary friends. and you will not believe it but I love these imaginary people. Day dreaming gives me a special feeling I could not find it in any thing else in life. but because it ruins my real life I want to get rid of it. but it is not easy. In fact your post gave me a push to stop day dreaming I hope the God help me with that. I cannot get a therapist so I have to do it all by myselfe.

thank you