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On imaginary girlfriends

There's a girl I've been seeing for a long time. She changes, evolves. I meet her different places, we have different first dates.

Sometimes we bump into each other at a convenience store, sometimes she's a new employee at clients business I work with. She's just like me, she likes the same things I do. She understands me, supports me. We talk about stuff I like to talk about. Supercomputers, video games, she has it all.

I've come to realize that just about every night while laying bed that I think about this imaginary woman. It helps me sleep. How we meet, what we do for fun. I'm waiting for her to come into my life, not realizing I spend my entire life locked away inside a fantasy world and never make the opportunity available anyway. Sometimes I browse on dating websites. Those profiles bore me so much, they're all the same. Browsing those sites makes me feel depressed and the only fix is to imagine someone up.

When I was a kid, I would fantasize that my crushes liked me. I'd daydream I was the cool kid, with the cute girl. It never happened. Then in college I would fantasize about meeting someone there. Never happened. The few semi-flings I had always ended up the same way. Me obsessively daydreaming about them after disappointment.

I'm 28, I've only had one short relationship. Because of MD, it severely damaged me as I spent a very long time obsessively time traveling back and changing things. I'm at the age where it isn't that cool to have as little experience as I do with actual women. It's embarrassing really.

I'm afraid one of the greatest disappointments in my life will be when I am old and realize I've been waiting for the impossible to happen all along.

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Comment by Alta Morden on April 18, 2014 at 1:24pm: The trouble is that you are imagining the completely non-real-world 'cool girl'. This is the girl who loves everything you love, totally supports you and expects nothing in return, understands your every thought, even without words, never gets upset or angry with you and so on. This is not a real woman. No real woman is like this. Holding out for this fantasy means no relationship, ever.

Comment by Rosethewolf on April 11, 2014 at 7:01pm: Mines kinda werid because he is not an imaginary person!!! He is my best friend and I daydream about us being together. different sceniaros and stuff. I haven't actually had a date yet and I am 19. I thought he liked me in high school but he said we are just friends but I still daydream about it and it is obviously messing me up. I need to start looking for a guy and giving the "real" guys chances. I do get asked on dates but some of the guys are kinda creepy stalker guys and I am like "no". When I say stalker I mean they find all of my hangouts, where my classes are located and what time. I also don't feel a strong "connection" with these guys. Not like I did with my crush in high school. He was special, I guess. But I daydream about him being with me. So I understand you.

Comment by The1andonlyAbber on April 10, 2014 at 6:22pm: My daydream character was at a party on a space station when she met a really cute alien guy (I have sci-fi daydreams). They instantly clicked, but then the party ended and they had to go their separate ways. She was too scared to ask him for his Mobile Telephony Device Code (his planet's equivalent of a phone number) or more specific information on where he lived (he told her the galaxy, but those things are HUGE). Now she thinks about him every day and really regrets not coming out of her shell. But she thinks that if they are really destined for each other, then they will run into each other again. In the daydream world, my character is wondering if it will happen. In real life, I'm debating with myself about if I should make it a part of the plot or not because I'm not sure if it's really wise to get into the whole imaginary boyfriend thing.

Comment by Teagan Heart on April 8, 2014 at 10:18pm: OMG, you are so not alone! I do the same thing; I did the same thing when I was in high school. Only though, I am a girl, not a guy. lol. But I do sympathize with you, and I do understand and know what you are going through. I think we should pray, then start knowing many people. then somebody will come along. There's hope, steve.

Comment by Vendetta_Crazzed on April 7, 2014 at 11:34pm: @Antigone I told him it's just because he's not "the one" but he's always known about my MD and i'm pretty sure he knows the truth but just doesn't understand it. Considering it's borderline insanity to leave someone real for someone who doesnt exist, i cant blame him. on the other hand i cant spend my life with someone when im thinking of someone else everyday instead. rather or not they are real. id always thought of this same imaginary guy ever since i was young. i thought that one day when i met the right guy in real life that the thought would stop. But they never did.

Comment by Vendetta_Crazzed on April 6, 2014 at 5:04am: I broke up with my fiance' after being together for 5 years. because of my imaginary male companion. shitty thing is he's an amazing guy theres no other reason id leave him. for me ive basically chosen to risk spending the rest of my life alone holding out hopeing that one day ill meet him even though i know he doesnt exist. i just figured im never going to be happy settling in this relationship unless i go out there and make sure i know for certain theres nobody better for me.