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I went to a Highly Sensitive Person meet-up.

Ok, so for those who don't know I have SERIOUS social problems. I pretty much can't get along with anyone, in person or on-line. It's a huge part of the reason I'm on Disability. I couldn't get along with anyone in an office environment or even online working from home. Plus, I have a million sensitivities to sounds, light, profanity, touch, taste, etc which make it very hard to enjoy hanging out with people. I took a big step today. I joined a Highly Sensitive Person group on meetup.com, and I actually organized and went to an event. The event was a walk in my neighborhood. Only one person showed, but still, we had a nice talk. It was nice being able to talk about my sensitivities with someone who would understand and not judge me. Most people don't understand and just act like I'm nuts or immature. He didn't. I have social anxiety, so it was really scary stepping out of my comfort zone. I'm glad I did it, though.

We've talked about what it is to be a Highly Sensitive Person on here before, but in case you haven't seen that, here's the test to see if you are one. I scored 22, definitely highly sensitive.

http://hsperson.com/pages/test.htm

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Comment by Cordellia Amethyste Rose on August 23, 2013 at 9:44am: There's nothing to be ashamed of. People who judge us for having it should be ashamed. I find that most people don't understand us and just think we're bratty.

Comment by Jennifer on August 23, 2013 at 9:41am: Oh, my gosh! I appreciate that you admitted to having it! I honestly thought I was the only one with this problem on this site. Thank you so much! You truly just helped me feel a lot better. I am sorry that you're struggling with Misophonia as well as MD. Neither one of these conditions are fun to deal with. :(
Best of luck to you!

Comment by Cordellia Amethyste Rose on August 22, 2013 at 10:44pm: Hi Jennifer. I've heard of Misophonia and have said I've had that for years. I'm familiar with it. TBH, it SUCKS having it.

Comment by Jennifer on August 22, 2013 at 10:42pm: Hi Ms. Cordellia,

I noticed that you said you are highly sensitive to certain sounds. A few months ago, I found something that answered all of my questions about my sensitivity to a certain sound. Every time I heard this awful sound, it either overwhelmed me and made me want to cry, made me angry, or just made me need to leave the room to get away from the person making this sound. I don't know if we are referring to the same sound sensitivity here, but, if you find that this is exactly what is going on with yourself, I highly recommend that you check into this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misophonia

I have Misophonia, and I have struggled with it all of my life. Ever since I found out that what I was suffering through had a real name, I was SO relieved. It feels so much better knowing that I am not crazy. That I am not the only one who goes through this during their everyday lives.

Sorry to post this if it doesn't apply to you. :/ I just hope that you understand that you are not alone if you actually are referring to "sound sensitivity" in this way, but, if you're not, I am sorry! I hope this helps!

Jennifer x

Comment by Cordellia Amethyste Rose on August 17, 2013 at 10:02am: Roxanne, I went to meetup.com and found a group in my area. Actually, it was the only one that fit my needs. I hope you find one in your area!

Comment by roxanne on August 17, 2013 at 7:29am: Good for you. How did you organize that? I would love to meet others in my area. I am what Dr. Aron refers to as an HSP extrovert. I seem extroverted to others but actually need a lot of alone time, unlike true extroverts. I also scored 22 as I remember. I will take it again. I get Dr. Aron's newsletter & have a workbook, which is interesting. It stresses that we need to balance ourselves. Putting ourselves under too much stress (which may seem like very little stress to others) is very bad for us. Trying to live stress free & not get out is bad as it becomes overwhelming when we have to. She also has been trying forever to get this recognized by MH community & is making strides. She wants it labeled a syndrome, though, not a disorder, which I love, as we are very valuable to the community as a whole. She gives lots of examples of this.

Comment by Cordellia Amethyste Rose on August 16, 2013 at 11:54am: I was open about my MD, and we talked about that a lot. He didn't judge at all and seemed interested.