I Need Help

[Riley]

So, my MD has recently gotten worse. I'm almost constantly daydreaming, even if there are other people around me. It's like I can't stop. I live in a dorm now, and I always feel relieved when my roommates leave just so I can daydream. When I'm alone, no matter where I am, I always will imagine people or a person around me and talk to them, carrying out whole conversations and imagining what they'll say back to me as if they're actually there. I feel crazy, because sometimes the conversations I come up with don't even make any sense. Also, whenever I am alone, I feel like people are constantly watching what I'm doing. It's like my daydreams are becoming my reality.

[KwanKwan]

"Also, whenever I am alone, I feel like people are constantly watching what I'm doing"

 

i used to feel like that all the time! Like when i walked into my kitchen the people from my school that i didnt like were sitting around my kitchen table staring and laughing at me. They way i stopped this was, if no one was truly in the room, i would say quietly to myself "This is my house, not school No one is here but me."

It kinda works.

Can i ask you something though. Are you happy with yourself? Like do you feel like you are truly comforable being at college constantly surrounded by others?

[Dusty]

Hi nice to meet you! If you find it actually has a negative effect on your life (e.g. keeping you from doing schoolwork or doing things you want to do) I would suggest you spend more time in the public area of your residence. In my experience it was good living in a residence--as I still DD'ed during mindless activities like showering and walking to class, there were a lot less opportunities for it as I was always surrounded by other people. Also that inner conversation thing has been with me forever! I actually find it helps me think of things to say to people in real life.

As for distracting yourself from daydreams, I definitely suggest yoga and meditation because those have really helped me focus at least for short periods. Here is a link to a couple guided ones on youtube (it need not cost anything to learn how): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pA5RR54B9bA&feature=related ; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4YIjx90XjMo.

Activities may help as well, like if you're into it try to find a club at school that does something that you're interested in, so might writing/drawing as creative expression, going on nature walks and finding new people to hang out with. If your classes are interesting to you then that can also help if you distract yourself through learning.

[Annie]

Dont try to fight it. Believe it or not sometimes its just better to DD. for one thing i know when ever i am DD deprived or trying not DD i daydream EVEN MOrE!!!!! The anxiety and stress builds up. Try to meditate like rose said above or go out and burn off some energy doing something fun. Or try some coffee to keep you a little more focused during important conversasions like a lecture or job interview

[Riley]

Thank you so much. I'll definitely try meditation, or some other outside activity to distract myself.

[Cordellia Amethyste Rose]

This is how I spent most of my life.  I'm still constantly in and out of daydreams, but it's gotten better after I found out what it was and stopped stressing about it.  Trying to force myself out of it only made it worse, so I started just accepting it.  I let myself daydream when I wanted and accepted that it took me twice as long to do anything (like school assignments) as a normal person.  Usually I only daydream less when I'm too busy to daydream as much, or if I get bored with my story lines or something.  I don't know what will work for you.  Different things work for different people.  Try finding outside activities that you enjoy enough that they will distract you from daydreaming, at least for a while.  Some have suggested meditation.  That didn't work for me, but it might work for you.  I posted some other suggestions that people have offered on the main page.  Don't give up.  It can get better.