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How to Relate to People?

I find it hard to relate to people. When I talk to relatives (like cousins), coworkers and acquaintances it is so difficult to have a decent conversation that doesn't sound awkward on my part. I can talk with my mother and sister, I guess because I talk to them all the time and I don't have to worry about things like whether or not they will get offended or if they can relate to the show or issue I want to talk about because I know they will. With others, I don't know that and my conversations are always about the weather and work (which is dull). My therapist says that I should get to know people, but I can't even get to that point. To me, it sounds dumb to ask someone "so what do you do for fun?"

Does anyone have ways in which they relate to people? How can they pose a difference subject other than superficial subjects?

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Comment by Cristiano on January 31, 2014 at 6:44am: well... I have a similar problem. Most of the times when I talked to somebody it was always related to my studies or work and when someone tried to talk to me about other subjects I almost never had something interesting to say. It can sound dumb but then I started to realize that I almost never payed atention to anything but the things that I was doing (work, daydream,...) I think that when you start paying more atention to what is happening in your around or to your coworkers, friends or relatives it is easier to have a good conversation later on. You can talk to your mother and sister because I presume you live with them, so you know them very well then it is easier to have a conversation.

Comment by Amanda Lewone on January 30, 2014 at 4:53pm: I've been trying to understand why things just get awkward with me. I really don't get it.

I'm always back and forth about this. Sometimes I'm like, it doesn't matter. I'll just live alone. Work, hobbies etc...Other times I just feel so bad!

I really don't how you can relate to people. But ye, just try to be interested about their lives and share something about yourself. I guess just keep trying, even if it feels awkward.

Comment by C. Foster on January 29, 2014 at 1:24pm: The problem is that I fear that I will be old and alone because I don't have any relationships. It hurts when everyone can talk to each other about anything and I can't even think of one subject.

Also, as a writer, it's difficult to flesh out a realistic character because I have not experienced the type of relationship I am writing about.