Dream World - Alternate Life

[Kevin M]

Hello.  This is my first blog.  I just found this site because of a Yahoo article and I can't believe what I've found.

I had such an overwhelming feeling...I still can't even describe it.  It's like truly finding out you are not alone.

I'm so scatter brained right now I don't know where to begin...I daydream every day.  If I had to take an estimated guess of how long I daydream i'd say about 2-4 hours a day on average.   There are many triggers and it's not always the same type of daydreams.   I'll get into more detail on future posts (hopefully).

I know my main trigger is listening to music on my headphones.   I can put on my headphones, put on a playlist and for an hour or two I'm in a different world.  While in the real world, I'm really just sitting on my couch listening to music on my headphones and staring off in to space.   Over the past couple of years this has really affected my romantic life.  I am single, I've only been on 1 date since the beginning of 2012, and I knew it was because I'd rather go home and dive in to a DD but I never really accepted it.  Nobody knows about this.  I haven't told any friends or family.

1 - Romantic Dream Life(s) -  First, let me just get this out of the way.  I'm 28 years old and I am a gay man.  That said, I have several "celebrity husbands" that I call on depending on which mood/preference.  Literally, I have about 6 different fantasy life(s) that revolve around these celebrity guys...and most of these guys are not gay themselves.  These are dreams/stories that I switch between, yet each dream-world continues even when I'm actively in another dreamworld.  At the same time, a lot of my dream worlds have a tendency to repeat.  Almost like that movie Groundhog's Day.  There are some scenarios I've run through my mind probably thousands of times now that I think about it.

2 - Fantasy Life/Different World Life(s) -  I have a few dreamworld that are complete fabrication...sort of.  They're DD's more based on video games and/or books (think Eragon and if you've read the Drizz't books).  A world where I have some type of special gift - usually something like  I can talk to animals or a specific animal.  I've had very detailed DD's about that it's far too hard to give an example right now.   I do play WoW, and I do enjoy it but I've noticed that its given me the ability to dive in to another DD without actually having to do all of the imaging myself.

3 - My Celebrity Life/World - I have vivid DD's about being a musician and/or singer.  Usually it's me in the place of whoever I'm trying to be at that moment.  I can be anyone in these...a singer in Fleetwood Mac, Lady Gaga, Jason Mraz, Train, Britney Spears...I have a lot of favorite singers/bands and when I listen to them I can go in to a DD where I essentially take over their life.  I can put my headphones on and play an entire concert in my mind as if I actually were on stage and that I'm the one that wrote/sang/performed these songs.   Usually these DD's find a way to tie into the DD's from example 1.

I can't believe I just pored all of this out.   just found the article less than an hour ago and I'm just ecstatic about finding other people like this.  I've felt so alone.  I will write more later but I need to go for now.

[greyartist]

welcome. I understand the groundhog day concept. Unlike some who have on going DD lives that continue for years, mine seem to repeat also. Maybe someday I'll "get it right" and move on like Bill Murray did. ; ) Glad you found us.

[M. Derp Peterséns]

I could never write about my DDs like this, I applaud you ~

What I've found interesting is that we all DD about so many different things and that we strive for different "experiences", lives if you may. For some this is obvious but I find it fascinating. Welcome Kevin, I'll enjoy reading your future posts.