does anyone

[ashlee]

actually like daydreaming or does everyone just want to stop it?
cause everytime i come on here now its just posts about trying to quit daydreaming or what not and i like reading the postive ones and ones about people daydreams and characters
daydreaming is distracting but honestly life would be so boring without it, im bored half of the time already, id be SOOOOOOOOOO bored if i didnt have md cause what would i always think about?

[Bethany]

I have never really felt guilty about it. I do enjoy it but I also wish I could control it more.

[Way Too Internal]

I love some aspects of my day dreams because they feed my imagination and stories I write but when I am trying to hold down a job and I can't focus on a conversation then other people pick up on it and they consider you a bozo or not capable.I understand the positive aspects but its tough when you can not listen to a conversation before the mind wanders and the other person thinks you don't care. Personally I could do with a break 

[Floris]

Both, and it depends.

Generally, it just happens and I allow myself to, I can enjoy and I stopped feeling guilty about it a long time ago...really love sitting in the train or bus doing it. It is accepted behaviour then :-).

I never really felt guilty about it but my dad would criticize me for it, to stop it, because it would take me too much time to study and read books. But it just happens, my mind works this way. I try to change small parts of how my mind works, when possible. To concentrate more. Whenever it's necessary, I do feel guilt about not concentrating. Studying helped me, because I wanted decent results. I was most efficient studying when the pressure was highest for my exams and I had a very steady day schedule, did some exercise, relaxed at times, watched tv in the evening.

The triggers to drift off are ALWAYS associations. Having a very associative mind, I feel I truly cannot help myself.  But I hope I can learn discipline. Would be nice to learn by conditioning. Would be nice if there were some sort of bootcamp for us daydreamers, with technology making clear when we make the mistake, huge alarm going off.

Daydreaming is NOT always unboring and pleasant: sometimes it's nothing more than a distraction and that's when it should (and mostly does) piss me off. If you have a responsibility, a goal, it gets in the way. In a way daydreaming is like real life where you also can get MANY distractions, colleagues chatting etc. They're not always pleasant distractions. It can piss off others too of course if you're not listening. Daydreaming can also be violent and negative for me. Dreaming about killing someone or beating him up.

To answer your question, what would you think about: your LIFE and the world you're in. I do this a lot more lately and fantasies have taken the backseat. I'm in my midlife. I hope for more harmony between fantasy and reality. As an ideal, not an end goal.

[LJ]

Right!  Too boring.  However, from what I have read, most of us are torn between spending too much time on it and getting out.  I guess we have not decided if it is weird or not.

[Syndy]

i would love to just stop and maybe be more engaged in my real life, but i cant. For me its exhausting (mentally) and i wish i dint have MDD, although deep down i love it. not sure if i made myself clear.

[Wish Upon A Wish]

I really do like my DDs, but I wish I could control them a bit more, and get my priorities straightened out a little. Well, maybe not a little, but a good amount. Well, maybe a s**t-tonne.

That's also another point: I have no idea where the hell the line between normal thinking, normal daydreaming and fantasy is.

I also remember, last year in English, we were talking something about sleep, I think the first word that comes to mind when we say sleep and to explain why or something like that. One guy (not only non-DDer, but an extrovert-apparently when doing nothing, they really are doing nothing. Unlike an introvert, to us, doing nothing is doing something) Um this one guy said 'monotony' because, "You don't do anything, you just lie there." And I was actually mildly shocked at that.

It's be so boring to not have this fantasy world, but I'm wasting my life. I mean, the only thing I've wanted to do with my life is be self-sufficient, and I don't know how I'll do that if I just put everything off, and DD instead.

[ILivin MyHead]

I don't want to stop mine. I love having that escape in mylife. To me it is the most healthy way to escape reality. I've tried drugs, alcohol and everything else to escape my pain. This seems to be the least dangerous and most enjoyable way to '' escape ''. And it is nice to finally realize that I'm not the only one who does it. I think it is awesome and I will do it for the rest of my life.

[taffle]

I love to DD, but I think I enjoy my story writing even more.

[Grace]

I love to DD, but my grades have gotten terrible, plus, since i DD about real people, it just hurts... I sometimes just lay in my bed, crying, about what will never happen! These two people are real, but aren't together, and never will be again (they used to be, but they're broken up now)... I think I've gotten a little better, not ONLY DDing about the two together, and not romantic DDs, just happy ones... But still, if I'm ever sad, those DDs comfort me in a way a can't explain... I don't think I'll ever get over they're relationship and it sucks because the girl has moved on in real life, and lives with her BF... It truly breaks my heart and I wish I could just stop DDing and think the way everyone else does because of it. And these are dangerous thoughts because it makes me hope for something that won't happen. Sometimes i also wonder how it's possible I can believe they should be together so much if they aren't actually meant for each other, but reality's reality, and I need to accept it.

THAT is why I want to stop.

[Jennifer]

Hey, Ashlee!

Interesting topic. I honestly tried to quit my daydreaming ever since i found out that it had a name. (Probably for 2 years now?) Many times I have tried to just randomly quit by seeing how long I could go without daydreaming, and the longest I have ever gone was 2 weeks straight. 2 weeks straight without any daydreaming. But, of course, this was when I was so extremely happy in my life. I was in a relationship, gaining fans of my music, and life was just going really, really well, and I couldn't be happier. But, of course, that time of life only lasted for about a month before it all plummited, sending me into a major depression. So major that I didn't even have the will to daydream. I suffered from that for about 3-4 weeks straight, and then I became neutral again. I felt a little better, alright, back to myself. I am still struggling with this break-up today even, so my will to daydream is higher because I'm just unhappy with my life and the way I'm treated by some people. :/ So, my idea of getting it to stop completely was to just kill of my Idealized version of myself in my daydreams. Because, if I had done that, then all of my characters would mourn me brutally, and it would just be too sad to daydream anymore, causing it to eventually fade. Well, that's harder than it sounds. I tried about 4 different times, but couldn't do it. I felt empty inside and became depressed again, at the thought of my character dying, and my entire fantasy world suddenly vanishing into nothing.

I plan to try again soon to see where this gets me. The reason for this is because I snap out of my fantasy world a lot and into reality, causing me to realize each time that my characters are not real people, and they're not actually part of my real life. They're just imaginary, fake people I use to comfort myself in my mind. This causes me to feel empty, and I just want it to stop. But, at the same time, I can't really imagine life without my characters and my world, so I don't really know if I'll make it next time I try the Ideal Me murder. I guess I'll just see as time goes on.