Where wild minds come to rest
Hello fellow daydreamers,
The topic i want to discuss today is mainly subjected to as the title suggest,
First of all i'm really glad that we daydreamers have access to this website so that we can talk with each other and discuss our problems, so all the credit goes to the one who made this possible, Cordelia rose.
Now coming to the main topic,
There is a very thin line between your daydreaming and the reality,
Daydreaming - It probably takes time to develop the kind of perfect story that you would want to have to enjoy daydreaming, I have a crush on an actress (classified) since almost 10 long years, I have his whole world of mine that's build up in my head with my crush being the center character for almost all the kind of daydreams i experience, the actress is probably one of the reasons i daydream so much, probably a basic scenario would be that we are talking with each other on a rainy romantic day at a coffee shop by the country area, having hot coffee,
Now this is just a basic one just to gives you guys an idea of how it's like for me, there are tons other with the same character in a different scene.
Reality or Malfunction - let's suppose you have a crush on someone, you really like that person for many reasons like beautiful looks, attractive personality or some unique flavor that you find in them what you don't in others, your so attracted to them to such an extent that your daydreams starts to feel real, every plot and the stories that you build in your mind is nearly perfect and convincing that yes we do like each other and this is the perfect relationship where we are just purely in love with each other, but that's not all true, until the reality or the real life of your crush gets in the way of your daydreams, Probably if i go and watch the TV shows, The movies of that actress who i have crush on, is kissing someone or having bed time, i cannot believe that she could cheat me over someone else after we had so much trust and faith in each other, this way im forced to change my daydreaming story line in some way that it could adjust and fix things between both of us, mostly the daydreaming in this case would come out to be negative like for the revenge i would try to make her jealous and date different girl, or im forced to daydream that im kissing someone else and suddenly she opens the door and sees both of us together that ways she realize that what she did with me was not right after i trusted her so much, sometimes i daydream that i'm a famous sports player who's really impressive with his scoring ability, to which she is impressed and find me more worthy than the guy she cheated me over, so basically even when i want to be normal person, simple yet good looking guy, just for her sort of guy, im forced to be a famous person just to ''adjust'' the plot in such a way that it makes sense and it's believable, now this way daydreams can be enjoyable but sudden plot twister can be uncomfortable at first since as i said before it takes time for perfect stories to build up which is the main reason why i was avoiding the movies and tv shows of my crush since a long time but sometimes i end up watching them out of curiosity.
Now this glitch of reality getting in the way of our daydreams can be a mechanism to control us from daydreaming excessively, cause if you don't have this malfunction probably you'll end up daydreaming for night and days for hours n hours you'll lose sleep, which i had experienced in 2011, probably i was sick had fever for about 4 days, i was away from social networking things like cellphones, internet, totally disconnected with the outside world, after 4 days of not daydreaming and total bed rest, on the 5th day suddenly i got triggered and the way i daydreamed about me and my crush was just real, i was send to a whole different alternate reality, since i was disconnected from outside world, there was no reality that strong that could weaker my daydream story line, my personal record of daydreaming is 12 straight hours of zoning out purely, just took a lunch break or dinner break after that just back on with earplugs with some really good music, probably i require music when i daydream to make it more fast paced with a natural flow. So sometimes i feel if reality interferes with your daydream is probably for your own good, to keep you in control and to save your time, cause probably after you know that your crush likes someone else and not you, daydreams seem to just fade away with emotional pain of course and some bad depression, probably it can end up to physical symptom like headache as well cause you try hard to think to rebuild the plot so that it make sense and but you cant, so you are forced to stop daydreaming and try hard some other time when you get ideas to make your story look perfect, it can takes days or months for me to forget the real life of my crush to get back to my normal daydreaming story line with her.
Comment if you can relate to what im trying to say. : )