Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
So I was reading a book the other day, called The Charisma Myth (http://www.amazon.com/The-Charisma-Myth-Personal-Magnetism/dp/15918...). Pretty decent book, but one part that stood out to me was a mention of how to calm yourself down when you're physiologically nervous, like say you're about to walk into a negotiation or an interview.
The author recommends visualizing yourself getting a hug from someone you care about. At least twenty seconds worth of hug. Don't skimp. Getting an actual hug releases oxytocin, but turns out, a virtual hug can do the same thing. The oxytocin relaxes you back into a calm, peaceful state of mind.
The cool thing is, it doesn't have to be someone you know. It doesn't even have to be a real person. Which means we MDDers are at a huge advantage. We can imagine hugging literally anyone, including people who are dead or fictional or even our future selves.
I started doing it a few months ago and it was awesome. I try to do it first thing in the morning, because I often wake up with anxiety. Once when I misspoke in class, I did it while releasing bad feelings. Normally my DDing takes a turn for the worse when anything negative happens in my life, and even the DDs get dark and gloomy, but it's also been liberating to see how you can take a bad event and turn it into a good thing in your mind.
So has anyone else ever tried this? Who have you hugged, and did it help? Do you have other DD tricks for dealing with nervousness?