Guide for Older Users

[Elaine]

Hi, my name is Elaine, I just started posting today, and just read a suggestion that made me think of one of my own.

An older user suggested basically that there should be a commonly accepted age limit to daydreaming, which would be 25. I see the logic, but I think ultimately this user just picked that number arbitrarily for the year he thought that he could've/should've turned his life around.

He was last active in 2021, and who knows if he'll ever visit wildminds again. My suggestion is that there be a pinned guide for people who aren't tech-savvy. At the very least, I'm happy to help and plan to check here often if anyone has any questions.

Sometimes it can feel like a ghost town. It can be really disheartening to shout into the void with no response. I'm sorry that's how it was for James, and I hope we can avoid it.

[JamesRelton]

Valeria, Cameron , Elaine , it’s a privilege to have you around, btw because I have zero media footprint the way Cameron has alerted me is the best way to get my attention by email
its not all been bad , although it’s caused prejudice and assumptions against me at times I have generally without arrogance been considered an attractive looking man , I travelled coaching soccer , university educated. , good job , fell in love , out of love , had female attention ( and male ) 

It’s not all been bad , but just seeing a guy in the gym , or a film , or a bodyguard lunging to protect a Royal , or a book , anything could set me off into their lives in my head instead of mine in mine 

I never had elaborate avatar worlds with characters and names and evil witches unless I enjoyed a movie like L W and Wardrobe 

mum glad you guys are here 

I may have sought help had I been 40!years younger 

but it’s still not recognised 

And everyone of us must fight and fight and don’t stop telling health professionals until 

they evaluate properly what Eli found and make it official 

Absolutely everything starts that way ( look at the poor bastards at the start of the AIDS epidemic, that was what you call fighting)

I may not get to the promised land with ya 

m it I’m glad you guys are around

im not angry at the 10 year old James , I just know he chose the wrong way 

the 25 years old thing was as said ballpark for regular forum members, a stop look and listen suggestion that’s all

 I mean it didn’t harm JK Rowling 

tiring , gotta rest , hope we continue to watch over each other’

God bless 

James

[Source]

I can't imagine what it must be like to face this torture on top of actual brain damage (according to James' comment). You'd think either one would be bad enough to deal with on its own. I can only hope you find some measure of peace and clarity while you still have the chance to benefit from it.
From what little I know about dementia and my limited experience with people going through its earlier stages, I must guess that it could very well amount to drowning in one's own nightmares before the end. I'm not sure I'd wish that on anyone.

@Elaine, I don't mean to sound like a grumpy boomer but be glad you weren't here before 2020. If this place feels like a ghost town to you now, you would have felt like the last human on Earth before Valeria took over. By the time Cordellia was forced to more or less abandon the site, there was practically no activity beyond the infestation of bots flooding every page.
It was disheartening, to say the least. I'm sure a lot of discussions and stories were lost in the noise.

[Valeria Franco]

@jamesRelton I'm very touched by your last comment. Feeling that it's too late... I would like to shout "No, it's not! We're here, life is here, real, now, no matter what".

I would love to send you some good vibes and a sense of joy for life. I know it's personal, the way someone faces pain is personal and different for each of us. Still, I would like to try to send you a bit of warmth.

[JamesRelton]

Hi Ladies 

it’s calming to have you both around and on the case so to speak 

I also love it when you respond to my posts , feels inclusive.  I’ve optimised physically and acceptance wise

as much as possible but it’s still a black brain , at least I have a health care senior post which forces, literally holds down my head and forces me to engage with patients in our National Health Service.    But it’s an act.     After jogging weights shower and food I’m back to staring into space wishing I could be somewhere else.           But I’m optomised sorry a physiotherapist term.               Point is the kids on the forum aren’t interested in the tales of an old man from fax machine land.       They’ve just found this new nightclub and that’s great if they are helping each other.          MD WILL be fully recognised one day          Once upon a time being queer , having schizophrenia being depressed didn’t exist too.      It has to be fought for.      My 25 year swing was just that , a gentle suggestion.       It’s too late for me , that’s like the draft for war.    Just bad timing       And test results have shown tar proteins have destroyed nerve endings in my brain which will likely cause early onset dementia and gives horrific headaches.  But I won three quarters of my fights.    And it was all considered healthy team building fun n fitness and kept us out of trouble.                 That’s life as the song says  I look forward to your responses.   I think all I would ask is with the moderators keep a general overwatch on the kids getting too excitable as that may make sober definitions less likely in the great WHO book of psychiatric illnesses.           My kindness regards to you both.     JamesRelton 

[Valeria Franco]

Dear @Elaine

thank you for your suggestion! Please tell me more about this guide.

I know sometimes posts don't receive answers, my bad too.

I would love to make Wildminds more interactive and a place where voices are heard. 

[Elaine]

Hi James! I didn't realize you were still active. I hope I didn't offend, and I sent you a message. Thanks for the comment.

[JamesRelton]

Hi Elaine 

Hope your as well as possible and respond if you wish to in a place I van find as I struggle with the tech navigation 

I realise now that I began in the early 80,s had no one I dare admit to , and felt I only felt real emotion in MD , therefore at an average of 10 hours a day real personality traits didn’t develop 

my health scare health check as you know turned this Great White Shark that we can’t see till too late to implode , disappear, fold inwards , leaving flat blackness 

it’s cost my marriage home and job , I was also a good teenager boxer for 4 years and are undergoing tests re concussion 

I meant no disrespect to our younger members , it was a ballpark idea that I wish I’d applied the the arts , performing or literature 

mum doing best I can 

best wishes to all you guys 

james