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After I discovered the site “Wild Minds Network” I was able to confirm what I have been speculating all my life. I knew what I was doing was not normal but could relate in what way because my fantasies were the only thing in my life that made me happy and confident.

I know I have to stop, I need to stop. I want to be happy for being me not the person I have created in my mind.

 

From last week I managed to go a couple of days without visiting my perfect world. Every time I was tempted to I would remind myself of the good things happening in my real life that I need to appreciate. I would call a friend and have a long conversation. I am triggered by quietness to fantasies so I started downloading my favorite songs and when I am tempted to fantasize I would play the music out loud and sing along. I am making progress but I have notice that I am more sad than before and very emotional and yes I am missing characters in my story. I missed my fantasy husband BUT I keep reminding myself that he was not real.

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Congratulations for these days without daydreaming! I think you do it the right way to talk to friends when you have the urge to daydream. Some years ago I managed to stop daydreaming for some months. I tried to feel everything that I normally would escape from into my daydream-world. This is what you describe: more sadness, anger, shame but also more real happiness. I cried a lot during this time, but I was very happy to live in reality. After some months, daydreams came back, but I don't dd as much as before.

I agree that you're going about it the right way.  The only things that make me daydream less are extreme stress and distraction.  If you try to force your way out of it by getting angry and judging yourself, you'll only make it worse, and even if you do succeed for a short period time, the withdrawals will be worse.  I know this from experience.  I think you're on the right path.  When I'm able to stop daydreaming because I'm too busy enjoying the outer world, I don't experience withdrawals, so I can't really advise you.  I think that if we learn to enjoy the outer world enough, then we'll be less dependent on our inner worlds.  Hang in there.  

Good bonne  congratss....I'm going to try this now . i'll read a book out loud instead of DD . however, it could be a trigger but i'll make it a challenge and i'll try to Focus as much as possible . it's normal to miss your characters or miss DDing itself as it was a huge part of our lives . Go on till u get used to real world and find your real world happiness . Good luck from all my heart .

This post is really helpful for me. Thank you !!

Cordellia Amethyste Rose said:

I agree that you're going about it the right way.  The only things that make me daydream less are extreme stress and distraction.  If you try to force your way out of it by getting angry and judging yourself, you'll only make it worse, and even if you do succeed for a short period time, the withdrawals will be worse.  I know this from experience.  I think you're on the right path.  When I'm able to stop daydreaming because I'm too busy enjoying the outer world, I don't experience withdrawals, so I can't really advise you.  I think that if we learn to enjoy the outer world enough, then we'll be less dependent on our inner worlds.  Hang in there.  

Let us know how it goes!  Good luck!  

yoya yoya said:

Good bonne  congratss....I'm going to try this now . i'll read a book out loud instead of DD . however, it could be a trigger but i'll make it a challenge and i'll try to Focus as much as possible . it's normal to miss your characters or miss DDing itself as it was a huge part of our lives . Go on till u get used to real world and find your real world happiness . Good luck from all my heart .

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