Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Hello any and all,
This is my first time posting here. Just found out I have this condition a few days ago, and like many of you was astounded to know there are others out there as strange as me.
I have been trying for the first time in my life to consciously control my MD continuously. As most of you share with me, music is a big trigger for MD. This is one of the most heartbreaking aspects of knowing I have this illness; I now know that I need to avoid music if I want to get a handle on this crazy thing.
So my question is, have any of you who are dealing with this found a way to enjoy listening to music --without slipping into MD? Particularly with headphones and not in the public sphere like a club?
Would really appreciate any advice anyone has --I really really love music and am a major fan, but im petrified of my headphones right now!
Thanks so much and good luck to us all
Thank you for your reply A. Altai. I read some of eretaia's blogs and did find them inspirational. Of course it's really hard to follow through on her (his?) advice because it seems more like she's calling for overall enlightenment than specifically overcoming MD. As an analogy, I'm sure an alcoholic would love to hear about the overall betterment of a recovered alcoholic but at the end of the day they'd still need concrete guidance to help them out.
Yes of course. I read eretaia's blog -she is free- and she says "yes you will be able to listen to music because this is just a defens system and if you cure it, if there is no problem, music won't be a trigger". You should read her articles.
After I began to fight my MD, musics are good enough to listen. They are just noisy rumble. I realize that I had listened only some specific musics to daydream. Can you imagine that? No Don't image. )) Now, I really don't want to listen music. But, I still want to watch TV shows or to play games that trigger my dreams... :/
I find it helpful to have the lyrics in front of me as I listen and mouth along. It's practically impossible for me to listen to instrumental music without slipping off into my fantasy though, and I kind of sad that I can't fully appreciate the music.
A problem I have with music if it's not background music is that I imagine myself playing the music in a band. I'm not a musician or anything, but I grew up thinking that what kind of music you listened to defined who you are (I don't really believe this anymore). I started to imagine myself playing the music I was listening to in front of my friends and sometimes family, and it would somehow get them to understand who I was. Hell, even 15 years later, and sometimes I'll imagine playing a song at my high school talent show, and getting weird reactions from the audience with various types of 'new' music like dubstep.