Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
I agree with both your theory and with Anette's! I also think it has to do with instant emotional gratification (at least for me).
For instance: one of my idealized self's in my daydream is a famous rock musician (lol) and was just asked to write the soundtrack for a cult movie that came out a few years ago. It's so easy to dream about all these opportunities falling into my lap. In reality I don't have that many connections, and composing music and writing lyrics is a painful road with meager rewards that often leaves you sinking in the quicksand of doubt and worry.
Accomplishing things in the real world is painful and slow. Dreaming about them requires no effort, and offers complete, and instant reward.
I'd still take real success over imagined success any day.
You guys make great points.