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Which is the hardest part of "rehab"?
I have practically broken the chains of my MD. But it isn't easy to adapt to the "normal" lifestyle just yet. Have you ever gotten close to getting out? Which is the part that makes it harder for you? Talking about a REAL reason, not the general fact that you can "design" the dream-life of your choice...
For example, my main difficulties are these:
-I have a very low voice and awful social skills. So it's hard to socialize with real people. And real-life emotions are basic anti-MD stimulants.
-My memory is awful. So my brain depends on creativity, instead of observance. Also I forget parts of my progress, and therefore repeat past mistakes (reading my diary yesterday, I found out I had escaped MD once before).
-I'm not yet used to being so free and myself in the real world. So I'm stuck doing baby steps.
I'm curious if there is some kind of pattern on the walls we usually hit, on our way out.
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Permalink Reply by SecretSeraph on
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I have really bad social skills both online and in real life. I have found myself trying to escape my MD world (as I am trying to do now but for different reasons) so I can become more socially active. But then I realise how much I dislike people and I think this is partially due to the fact that they never live up to the standards of my daydream friends. I agree that it is somewhat of a vicious cycle, I haven't quite decided if its worth the trouble or not.
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Permalink Reply by Gina Black on
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I used to be that way...but then I asked myself, do I live up to the standars of my daydream friends? And then I realized my own amount of imperfection is as big as everyone else's, at least in the real world. That's how I started trying to understand people better instead of avoiding them. I haven't become a master of socialization, but I've found reasons to like people. (Well...not everyone, but a fair amount of the people I meet)
...And yeah, socializing is trouble. :p
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Permalink Reply by Shadow Cat Sam on
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-My memory is awful. So my brain depends on creativity, instead of observance. Also I forget parts of my progress, and therefore repeat past mistakes (reading my diary yesterday, I found out I had escaped MD once before).
That. I have done that before as well. On more than one occasion.
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I just find that my DD friends are trustworthy and reliable and most people I meet are not, so I'd rather not bother I would like to find a close friend but in bad at socialising as it is so the trust issues make it even worse. My boyfriend has friends and I talk to some of them but they only ever socialise at the bar and its not really my thing.
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It is not easy to find real-life friends that are as trustworthy as our DD ones, I'll agree on that...I've only had 2-3 close ones. Personally, I mostly get along well with people who also want someone to trust, but also talk a lot and/or do the socializing thing themselves. Some of the people who talk a lot, have actually no one trustworthy around. Once you see how alone they really are, it is easier to form bonds.
You don't have to pressure yourself to socialize with people that just don't fit with your character, all it takes is keeping your eyes open for someone who may be fun to get along with. It doesn't have to be all about trust from the beginning.
Btw you are doing better than me at the boyfriend thing (I don't have one and don't know how to get a non-DD one) :p
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