When daydreams fall apart

[Joy]

Hello there, everybody.  New to the site; glad to have found a place of kindred spirits.  I am a life-long daydreamer; however, I haven't been daydreaming as much lately as I used to.  For me, most of my daydreams are funny and entertaining and I enjoy it all quite a lot.  Back when I was in college, I did have trouble paying attention to lectures but I managed well enough by reading the textbooks thoroughly.  Now, as long as I don't let myself get bored or sad, I can manage to control my daydreaming so that it doesn't interfere with my life.  Lately, I have been thinking about writing about my life as a daydreamer and I've been trying to figure out why sometimes my daydreams fade or begin to fall apart, or the characters begin taking on lives of their own.  Does anybody else have experience with this?  If so, would you say that your daydreams fade because you get tired of them, or because something in your life changed--like maybe you were daydreaming a lot during a depression and then when that lifted, the daydreams receded, or do your daydreams start falling apart as a result of some kind of traumatic situation?  By the way, I strongly believe that this is a gift and not a condition, and that it has its root in a physiological trait (some scientists are thinking ADHD, OCD, Autism, bipolar either in the person who daydreams or in the family).  It's hard, though, I know, when life inside the mind is more interesting than life outside the mind.  Why bother going outside if you don't have to?  For me it has really made a difference to go outside, finish college, get married, have kids, and even now I am in graduate school.  All this makes the daydreaming more of a hobby than a career, so it's more enjoyable.  And BTW: I've started telling everybody about my little habit because I don't like feeling ashamed.  Plus the stories are funny.  Good luck everybody!

[The1andonlyAbber]

For me, daydreams fall apart when I get bored with them. However, I don't always realize that I'm bored with them at the time. For example, once I had a really great daydream that suddenly fell flat. I later realized that it was because I made the characters too powerful so conflicts in the storyline were too easy for them to deal with.

[Gwenevere]

My daydreams begin to grow boring once the "plot" is solved, or when I start to run out of details to fill out.  I'll still play the same scenes in my mind over and over again, but eventually I get tired with them, and then I'll shelve that daydream for a while, but then pull it out again a few months later when it's not as fresh and play with it some more.  Sometimes they break down when they take these really dark, depressing, soap-operatic turns. 

My daydreams stuck around even when life was interesting, even when I had guys interested in me, going on dates, in college, in grad school, had a good job.  One of my most full-blown daydream episodes lasted a couple of months while I was doing an internship to complete my master's degree.  

[OhMyMagenta]

My daydreams start to fade after I've had them for a extensive period and become stunted as to where to take them from that point on. I take a break from that DD and either revisit an old DD or get into something completely different. I've been daydreaming since I was a child and continue to do so at age 36, with a career, and managed to get my Masters with a 3.8 GPA. My daydreams are present with or without a boyfriend, when my life takes a turn towards interesting or when it's dull as dirt.

[Dawn Herraria]

Oh I wish! I envy the strong hold you have on your mind there, if you catch my drift :3