What about famous people - singers, actors.. ?

[Asta]

Hey everyone,

I was wondering do you daydream about famous actors, singers and other artist?

I really think my weak spot is male singers. If the singer is beautiful, has an amazing voice, I am helpless and start to daydream, create romantic stories and etc... It is especially related to songs, I create stories based on them.

Does this happen to you to? How do you deal with it?

I know that the best way is to avoid trigers, but how could you stop listening to your favorite music :)

[debbie downer]

i have some characters that were originally based on band members, but i started daydreaming about them so long ago (6-7 years ago) that they've become their own people if that makes sense. they're nothing like the real band members anymore even though they were originally made to be carbon copies of them. i do feel guilty about it sometimes because the real band members would be freaked out if they knew, but there's really no way for me to stop it nor do i want to. i guess there's no way for them to ever know anyways. i create stories based on songs too!!

[Alice Court]

I do exactly the same, have another life based on celebrities etc. In my daydreams, music is my trigger too but I'll never give up listening to it. I've met both bands that I used to daydream about and it is so bizarre meeting them when you've made them up to be this whole different person that you know in your head. Best thing to do is just not listen to it if you're doing something where you need to concentrate work, driving etc :)

[Jenn]

I do a version of this, but my daydreams are based more on the characters that the famous actors play on TV or in movies.  I will take those characters and create daydreams around them...and then I tend to get upset or depressed when I see that actor as themselves and their look or personality doesn't fit the character I have taken and expanded on.  So when I get that way, I try to avoid seeing that actor in movies or on TV.  Hard to do when it's one of my favorite TV shows, though! :)

In regards to the music, it is a HUGE trigger for me because in my daydreams I am always a famous singer.  So I will take songs that I love and make them mine in my daydreams...which just makes the daydreams worse.  I have been trying to stop this, but as you said it's hard when music is such a trigger because I can't just stop listening to music!  I have had some luck with associating music to things other than myself/my daydreams.  For example, when I hear a song that I love I will try to think about someone I know in real life instead of thinking about my daydreams.  It doesn't always work, but it helps a little. 

[Myra.]

Yes I actually have these artists who are my favorite and I always daydream about them in which they're all somehow my really good friends and one of them is in love with me. It gets so frustrating when that one guy artist who loves me gets a girlfriend in real life.

[Stella]

I know exactly how you feel. I DD about a male singer. It's hard because every time he is seen out with a girl or is rumored to have a girlfriend I feel like I am going fucking crazy. If I had any tips on how to deal with this I would be more than happy to tell you but I don't. I'm still trying to find a way to cope with this myself. Music is also a really big trigger for me to. I just wanted to let you know your not alone! Have a good day!

[Stella]

Myra. said:

Yes I actually have these artists who are my favorite and I always daydream about them in which they're all somehow my really good friends and one of them is in love with me. It gets so frustrating when that one guy artist who loves me gets a girlfriend in real life.

I have never related more to your post! I also get upset, frustrated, depressed when I see the guy I DD out with a girl. Do you know any good ways to cope with this? What do you do when your artist is out with a girl or has a girlfriend?

[Stasia OBrien]

Yes! This is exactly what my entire MDD revolves around!

I do this all of the time, I have also done the singer/song thing! Soooo glad to find others who go through this!!!!!!!!

I actually am an actress and filmmaker and my daydreams are what I want my life to be like and not what it is. In my MDD, I am famous, have starred in tv shows/movies, I even daydream episodes of tv shows around a character I create, pretend I have personal relationships with the cast and other famous people, etc.

One of my biggest problems with my daydreaming is that when I get a crush on an actor or singer or celeb, my fantasy becomes that we are in a relationship and if I happen to discover that the celeb is dating someone in reality, it triggers my depression and I am then in a constant state of anxiety, despair and sadness. It's awful.

[Jenn]

THIS THIS THIS!!!  I am also a singer/actress in real life, but I haven't done nearly as much with it as I should or could have because I let all of my creative energy go to my daydreams. One of my most recent/favorite daydreams is that I am on a television show and end up in a relationship with the leading man, who is an actual actor.  And that we are doing press with the rest of the cast or that we are acting out a scene as our characters, etc.  And I also got extremely upset and depressed when I found out that actor was actually married.  I actually tweaked my daydream after that to where he was getting a divorce! Ha! But it also makes me sad when I think about what I could have done with singing and acting if I had actually invested in it instead of letting daydream me do it all....

Stasia OBrien said:

Yes! This is exactly what my entire MDD revolves around!

I do this all of the time, I have also done the singer/song thing! Soooo glad to find others who go through this!!!!!!!!

I actually am an actress and filmmaker and my daydreams are what I want my life to be like and not what it is. In my MDD, I am famous, have starred in tv shows/movies, I even daydream episodes of tv shows around a character I create, pretend I have personal relationships with the cast and other famous people, etc.

One of my biggest problems with my daydreaming is that when I get a crush on an actor or singer or celeb, my fantasy becomes that we are in a relationship and if I happen to discover that the celeb is dating someone in reality, it triggers my depression and I am then in a constant state of anxiety, despair and sadness. It's awful.

[Stasia OBrien]

I know what you mean Jenn - although, I am still pursuing my acting and filmmaking so, there's that - but I still feel like I depended on my fantasy life too much and wasted a lot of time b/c of it.

[Laura]

All of my characters are celebrities, actors. Actors that I'm a fan of in real life. Avoiding triggers is almost impossible. I don't mind when I'm at home but when I'm in my college dorm I am never alone and can't really daydream, that's when it'll get to me. Just seeing their faces is usually enough, depending on who/what it is. Or watching any movie or seeing anything that corresponds with some major plot point I have going on in my DD story... I need to get better at triggers before I go back to school.

[OhMyMagenta]

i DD mainly about characters from TV/movies, not so much the actors themselves. If I do fancy one actor in particular, I'll seek out other movies/shows they've starred in as a weird form of 'research' for my DD. I try to steer clear of DDing about the actor, since the majority of them are married with families. It's also disruptive to the DD if I find the reality of the actor doesn't line up with the character they portray.

[Stasia OBrien]

yup, that is what happens to me, in fact it happening right now, I learned something about the reality that has threatened my DD and now, I am in a constant state of anxiety. It sucks.