Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
I always had that when I was younger, always bad things happening to me, but I never actually cried out loud so of course no-one noticed. I don't do stuff to that extreme now, because I'm (in some ways) more realistic about what goes on in my DD. I've had my best DD friend murdered infront of me, been stabbed and had broken bones, and some other things, and that's only in the main "world" I've had. I also can't watch horror movies without getting scared, and I cry easily in some movies....
I don't really have anything to say that could help, except that you're not alone in this and, I have to say, I'm bloody effing well thankful I'm not the only one that does/has done this.
I do sometimes have good or sometimes even absolutely amazing things happen though, to balance it out. I think I'd get bored if it was only bad, or only good, though.
I often have dds like these. At first I thought I was just exercising my creativity but then I realized I really like to dd about the main charcater of the dd suffering. I'm not too big on physical pain but I seem to not get enough out of mental torture and psychological things happened to them to the point that they have a mental breakdown. I have no idea why this is but I enjoy it and continue to do so. The only time physical pain is addressed in my dds is if it adds to the trama of being mental abused.
Sometimes I feel really bad and have to stop and just think "What the hell is wrong with me?" but I honestly can't seem to help it.
I'm all for a psychological horror or thriller movie but I do not like gory movies at all. And movies where the main interest is self destructive or troubled are a guilty pleasure.
Two questions: Are you being saved in these violent DDs or are you saving someone? Second question might make everyone queasy (me included)- do these DDs include sexual violence?
@Robbles - I think your violent DDs are just a manifestation of the lack of adventure in real life. Or maybe just a lot of such stories that you've heard of , mostly from someone/persons who you know. We often hear such stories and wonder what we'd do if we were in that situation. Specifically in your case it seems like guilt over doing things you didnt want to but had no control over.
I have quite a lot of violent daydreams that usually occur when I am angry or upset. If I'm upset the daydreams will usually involve violence being inflicted onto me. If I'm angry its usually me inflicting the violence. I am not a violent person in real life and have never found myself in any kind of violent situation. I must admit I do get a kind of sick satisfaction whenever I witness a real life fight if I'm at the pub or whatever but I think that's just basic human curiosity and plus it gives me a bit of an adrenaline kick.
Even though I am not outwardly aggressive I still do feel aggression and aggression and the desire to fight I think exists in all of us as its part of our survival instinct but because I never show that am I angry and I bottle up those feelings I use DD as a way to get those negative emotions out whether that's to violently assault some random character or for them to assault me.
Aquarious - thanks for ur reply thats very true with lack of adventure as often or not my dd are with me as normal as can be. i use myself and my house and my work but create a different family. but i do go on adventures and this life is very boring and a disruption to the routine would be nice. Also seeing things, i dont watch television or films that often and i cut out music also but i watch the news a lot and this is probably very very violent maybe i should be a recluse and cut everything out.
Hunter - That is truewhat u say that it is a relase of our emotions better in my dd than in real life. but my dd are constantly violent and gory too. even my night dreams but there not nightmares in fact i prefer them to real life. maybe i am jus constanly angry but i dont know what with. i am very passive laid back person and realativly happy but not in my dd.
I didn't really stop, it still does happen sometimes, but I try to be realistic in my daydreamings (you know, realistic for the fact that I'm a shapeshifter hybrid thing, I know 6 horses with mono-coloured eyes of different colours that are sentient and my best mate is some made-up creature-person thing, and she has others of her species) and I realised that most of those scenes just aren't realistic at all, so I try to do something a bit more realistic, and some of the extreme, torture-stuff faded away, but there are still some bad things happening, and the extreme stuff does pop up quite randomly from time to time, but it's so unrealistic, so it's less common.
If that helps in any way, then that's awesome, but I highly doubt it will, so sorry :(
Thanks wish upon a wish for replying. I am sooooo glad I'm not the only one. You say you used to do it... How did u stop or change.
My dd are very life like as well it goes everywhere with me but most of the charictors in my dd are psychopathic killers n tortures and I can't stop them. They are there when I'm at work and at home ect but they are daydreams. I dd the other day I was soo drunk and my bro set fire to a house with children's in it. I dint drink in real life at all. My dd get carried away and I can't controll them a lot of the time and I in no way can rid them. I just don't like thinking of such things
I have tried stopping thinking like this. I have a really nice dd of a completely different planet which is not life like that is very very peacefully but it's not life like at all I end up reverting back to the violent dd.
Thanks again for ur support
What if you're issue/problem in life is that you're the last person on Earth?
Sorry, it couldn't be helped, I had to ask that.
I have what I call negative daydreams/fantasies. In these I can be depressed, abused, addicted to drugs, mentally insane, in a violent relationship you name it. I don't think this means that I want these things. I think its a way of working things out or living things that aren't safe in a safe place, my head. I wouldn't worry to much but then again we all fantasize for different reasons.
Rest assured no matter what your issues/problem is in life you are never alone.