Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
If anyone of you is willing to, please tell me the story in your MD in as much detail as possible. I've had several plot lines over years during my MD experience, but I have observed a common basic theme running through all of them (other than the very well known fact that the protagonist is a perfect person ). So I was wondering if it is more or less the same story that is actually going on in all of our heads.
You guys are very successful for somebody who daydreams a lot. I never would've done very well. How do you live two lives and achieve things?
My mom blames my lack of a good and successful life on MDD.
That's the thing. I didn't wait until I was alone to dream. I did MD all over the place, where everybody can see me doing it clear as day. Of course I was just a kid, so I didn't know any better. But I remember how everybody used to come up and comment what I looked like on the outside. Reflecting on everybody's reactions and feedback makes me more sick than the fact I did MDD. Although, I could've solved my problem and grew up well, if my mom hadn't been so very strict. She's like this dragon queen, and if I go wild and take off after my goals, without my parent's permission on where I'm going, and I mean leaving home altogether, I swear they'd call a search party. Apparently in this house, I have to earn my independence to do that, which I still haven't. And it's getting insanely embarrassing, because I'm already 34. I hate to think where I'll be at 40.
Thanks for this advice. Though I have decided to quit MD completely. When it comes to my head, I have no power to live alternative lives, as I used to. My health needs much improvement and I need to focus on my real self.
I am 63, married, and retired from a fairly successful career mostly in the space industry. I have been doing MDD since probably as early as age 4, so that's almost 60 years of it. Over all of those years I have had many different and varied story lines. Some of them have developed over decades while other are short little threads that exist independently. Some of them have included celebrities but they were never main characters in my story lines and most of those were in my teen and young adult years. They were not usually major, A list type celebrities. My fantasy romantic partners were usually based on real-people that I knew and had real-life romantic crushes on. There themes were most commonly science-fiction, fantasy or horror based stories. Others paralleled real-life events. I think if I had spent less time immersed in artificial worlds of my own creation and having imaginary relationships with imaginary people I might have been more successful in my real-life, but despite that I did have a successful life and now have a comfortable retirement. MDD doesn't have to destroy your life. It is something that you can live with.
It's not that I can help it much. I have that kind of a head--if I do MDD--my mind loses concentration. My head used to feel like it went into a thick sleepy state if I got into it deep enough. I think my version of MD was prompted more by haunting emotions, since I am in fine arts and I tend to romanticize things about life. Like my MD tends to look something out of a mythical painting in a gallery or a gothic poem or book.
Whereas you guys run MD like it's a comic book or a storyboard narration with many characters, while your somehow still successful in your career. I guess it really depends on how a person balances their real life agenda with their alternative life and how MD effects the activity of your head.
What baffles me is how you guys do so well. Often when you do MD, you can't seem to listen and absorb what other are saying, or you tend to go quiet. You tend not to pay attention. People have always noticed when I was doing it. It was all in my eyes.
Interestingly enough, I never knew there are people in the space industry and medical practice that actually do this stuff. I always pictured, only fine artists and writers ever do that. I guess I'm wrong.
I used to MD so often, and now my head hurts, so can't do it. Has MD physically impacted anyone's head?
I have been daydreaming since ever and MDing since I was 15. All these years I couldn't stop MD just by deciding to quit MD even though I tried so many times.
And I feel that DD turns into MD when you start holding a constant plot (although it gradually changes with time ) instead of having short bursts of mental emotional expression, because then it becomes your favorite soap opera, accessible at all times.
I also used to feel that if I am this successful despite MDing half of the time, how much more could I have achieved if this MD compulsion were absent. Yet, here I am, free from MD for around 2 years now but not seeing many profits of absence/lack of MD. I have come to think that, like drugs, MD actually makes you perform better. So, in my opinion, balanced DD is the best. And depression is not caused by MD as I can tell you- even after MD goes, depression remains if it was there already. In fact MD is a pain killer for that depression.
What are you currently doing with your life? What made you start MD?