Seperating reality from my daydreams?

[Chelsea]

So my daydreams used to make me very happy and I daydream about some movie character and tv characters, however real life seems to intrude in to my dreams. They are no longer happy but I know see my self changing them to fit situations or events that happen in real life, and it seems like I can't stop it. For example if one of my daydream characters from a tv show has a baby in real life I see my self trying to put some of the real life aspects of that persons life in to my daydream.

How do I separate reality from my daydreams so that I can be fully in control again?

[Ivy White]

Hm, I tend to divorce the characters in my head pretty well from who they are outside of my head. One of my characters has an ongoing series and I split her off from that in my head, so I just run with my storyline and I don't care what happens to her in the show. I feel lik I kind of "own" my character, or I let myself change things that I don't like in her from the series, making her more my own creation and not the person that plays them or the character in the books.

[Kay M]

I do have a few real life characters, and the way I think of it is that the timeline split off a few years ago after a certain point. Before that cannot be changed, as it already happened. But the timeline is different in some ways, and not everything has to happen, it only happens if it can plausibly fit in with the alternate timeline.

I don't have any celebrities or anything in my daydreams, but there are many other stories these people go in that do not stick to their real life-the actors are just a part to play in movies, TV shows and stuff. They have different lives in other people's stories, so they don't have to change things to fit their real personality.

[Fantasizin Farah]

This is why I like animation so much better. Whether they are cgi, cartoons, anime, e.t.c.(preferably anime). For some reason animated people do not irritate as much as people in real life. I feel like that could be an issue, but not if I don't act on those irritable tendencies.

I don't know if anyone has the answer to your question, because they most likely know very little detail enough to provide an adequate solution. But I know what works for me and maybe it might work for you. Like medicine, therapeutic techniques may work better for some or not so good for others.

But why not try to be mindful. By mindfulness, I mean things like, performing tasks one at a time. This helps in more ways than one. I also would suggest cognitive behavioral therapy, cause its totally awesome to get stuff like this off of your chest. People might have already recommended this stuff, but I just wanted to say they help me out. They do not eradicate this altogether though. I don't mind having maladaptive daydreaming. But I do want to keep it under control like you do.