Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
I can identify with some of what you are experiencing but may not have ready advice. Each one of us have different perspectives and this MD thing is like brand new-just found this site in last half hour. Still a bit amazed, frankly. Will just say this: it is worth the effort to deal with the issues that led to your reaching this point. I used fantasy to help deal with insecurity, but also to boost my ego. From my view, I need to be able to see myself realistically but not judgmentally. Discovering that the real me had much to offer, if I lost some of my pride and accepted that the real me was more worthy than any fantasy could ever be and that my unique self was worth developing has made a difference for the better. I am sounding a little trite perhaps but the truth is very simple sometimes.
I will keep you in my prayers for a good tomorrow and future success in all your endeavors.
I can relate to that
I find that most of my MD "friends" i have had some kind of sexual relationship with but iv realised that they always play such a similar role. I have a partner of 10 years and i really feel like im cheating on him because i feel so close to my MD friends. How ever saying that i never ever use my dreams to create my sexual arousal to be with him. Does that make sense? I would feel to guilty to ever do that to him. But i get my needs out of the MD world instead of the reality world, which is suppose is really really bad?!
But i find that i have set such a high standard in my dream world that my partner will never be able to reach it and it does effect our relationship. To the point where i think its not fair on him and i should just leave him, how will he ever meet my desires when my desires are all dreams?!