No idea how to explain this, but I'm going to try to the best my ability.

I don't really put myself into my daydreams, but more like I create a character and put a few of my typical thought processes in them. I use this character to interact and observe the one I've created as the sole focus of the daydream. 

I've heard of a lot of people having themselves as the main person in their fantasies, like, a tweaked or perfected version. The person who I kind of live through doesn't really even have that much in common with me, and isn't the character that I feel attached to, or "love", but more like a vessel I use to act out affection towards the "main" character. 

Not sure, I actually find it kind of strange that I'm not really included in my own fantasy world.

How are the dynamics of the relationships in your daydreams?

Sorry if this has been posted before, I just joined and lurked a little bit and didn't catch it, sooo.

 

Also, kind of unrelated, but does anyone else change their gender in daydreams?

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Not confusing at all! I feel you there. I think I put aspects of what I wish I could be/was into my characters, because I spend all day admiring the world, it kind of happened by accident, like things I didn't even know I admired a lot.

littleschrodinger'scat said:
I think I may do something similar. The "me" in my daydreams is not really me ( different personality, different name, different story ) but I feel that the "me" who is the false person is the me I am in the real world. Sorry if this very confusing.
Well, anyone you want to be, apparently, haha. That's really interesting too, though. I've tried to put myself into daydreams, and it happens sometimes, but I think something about them is a little to realistic or close to comfort to me. Weird, I know.

Drake said:
I always put myself into the daydream. because who else could I be but myself?

I also like that statement about individuality. My characters will also do things I won't like or just be completely opposite in personality. I change their roles/personalities all the time to the point where they're completely different people in each story. They only look the same, lol.

 

Yeah, I believe there was an ending to YYH, but I don't know if it covered the manga in its entirety.

 

Homunculus? I couldn't help but think of Full Metal Alchemist, haha. Well, I read about it on Wiki and it sounds fascinating. I never heard of anything like it. I'm gonna check it out. ^_^ Lately I've been reading 20th Century Boys, Vinland Saga, Gantz, and Berserk. But very slowly, like...one chapter a month, lol.

 

As for Yuri anime, I would wholeheartedly recommend Simoun and Aoi Hana. And of course, there's the classic Revolutionary Girl Utena. I haven't completed it yet, but I loved what I saw so far.

That's interesting.  I used to never represent parts of myself as men --- to the point where there were hardly any men in my daydreams at all.  Then a few years ago, it mysteriously switched so that most of the important characters are male.

 

And I think using daydreams as a way of preparing for events in real life makes a lot of sense.  When something comes up suddenly, it's so easy to not know what to do and to panic.  But if you have the opportunity to "study" the situation in a daydream first, it can makes things a lot less stressful. 

 

Kirsty Amhert said:

I always, always represent the aspects of myself through a man. It's been like that ever since I can remember. 
Other characters are always very different from me, I think I do this as a way to observe/teach myself how to handle when real people act different. Suspecting that my daydreaming is like, a video on how to appear normal. Like, I teach myself wich situations call for me to be angry or sad, and work out through my characters how they display these feelings, so if something happens in real life I can copy their behaviors and no one notices I'm somewhat of an emotionless robot.

I like what you said about working out issues in yourself, I've never thought about that before and should probably start observing that a little more closely.

Thank you! If I can find time between constant day dreaming and overwhelming school work, I shall be quite thoroughly entertained, haha.

Laila said:

I also like that statement about individuality. My characters will also do things I won't like or just be completely opposite in personality. I change their roles/personalities all the time to the point where they're completely different people in each story. They only look the same, lol.

 

Yeah, I believe there was an ending to YYH, but I don't know if it covered the manga in its entirety.

 

Homunculus? I couldn't help but think of Full Metal Alchemist, haha. Well, I read about it on Wiki and it sounds fascinating. I never heard of anything like it. I'm gonna check it out. ^_^ Lately I've been reading 20th Century Boys, Vinland Saga, Gantz, and Berserk. But very slowly, like...one chapter a month, lol.

 

As for Yuri anime, I would wholeheartedly recommend Simoun and Aoi Hana. And of course, there's the classic Revolutionary Girl Utena. I haven't completed it yet, but I loved what I saw so far.

Yeah, I agree. I don't feature in my daydreams at all. I suppose once I began to think of it I realized that each character has a trait or two similar to the different sides of me, so I'm just drawing off of similarities that I know-but overall I don't feature as a character. 
I've seen some people saying they have multiple daydream worlds. I only have one, but I have about 8 "main" characters that I can distingush between with ease, and I switch between them quite often. Probably about weekly or so and some are the perspective character more often than others. I've also noticed that depending on my mood, my perspective character changes... (eg. when I'm feeling more neurotic, it's my neurotic character as lead).  
As to changing of genders: well, I'm a girl-of my eight characters, 6 are boys and 2 are girls..... so I'm more often a boy in my head, but definitely can interchange...
This is interesting! Glad to see I'm not the only one. Reading about other people's daydreams is a lot more fascinating than I expected it to be.

I've changed genders, but its not me who changes. Sometimes i end up following a male character for a while. never for long, i always end up back at my original main character. Or character template i should say, i change her drastically depending on the dream, though some core traits remain the same. 

 

I'm almost never me in my daydreams. it feels kind of weird when i try to. It seems more natural to live them out through othr characters. It seems more real if the characters are actually living it. Like how on tv it kind of takes the illusion away if you think of them as actors, instead of the people actually living and breathing the events. 

the only completely fictional daydreams i have now, i usually justify the time spent with them by telling myself they are for the purpose of a book or a short story. one out of a hundred actually get written down.

 

but because of this i am never in them. like you mentioned, the lead will have traits and tendencies of my own. ever since grade school the leads in my short stories have been prodominantely women. if they are male they tend to be children.  i do this because women and children in north america have more obvious reactions to emotional issues. men typically arent allowed to feel the true weight of a dramatic situation. i hate writting for lunkheads.

 

through analyzing my daydreams and just studying the art of writting fiction ive come to understand that any character you create will have traits and tendencies you yourself have. some conscious. some not. you can't create something from your mind without first starting with "your mind". even to create your complete opposite and doing everything possible so they dont have a trait associated with you; the character is still tied to you being that they are your complete opposite and in order to see the blueprint for this character we still have no need to look any furthur then you.

 

i find it interesting that you use this character, that you see as not you,  in your mind to show affection to one you have created. are you male or female in your daydreams? the character you create, is he/she your ideal mate? i wonder if you have intimacy issues and this is your way of achieving closeness. pretty distant for closeness if you ask my oppinion.

I'm not myself in my daydreams either. I've never been. I'm usually male and the weird thing is I don't daydream about a better life. Usually the character is more troubled then me the difference is this character isn't afraid to show "his" weaknesses and is pretty open and has a big supporting family around. I've had 2 bigger daydreams that ive been working on for years. when i get bored i usually have that character die...

The relationships are always very complicated but the character always seems to find someone to be close with


 I have extremely severe issues with intimacy. I am not sure I could imagine an ideal mate, at least not on purpose, because my issues are actually so deep seeded that my mind doesn't want to work with the question. They may be my ideal mate, though if so the effort was a subconscious one.

The person who carries my traits in the daydreams is male. I also have a pretty intense masculinity complex, so that never really surprised me. The person showed affection to is also male, but is very intersexed.


michael clarke said:

the only completely fictional daydreams i have now, i usually justify the time spent with them by telling myself they are for the purpose of a book or a short story. one out of a hundred actually get written down.

 

but because of this i am never in them. like you mentioned, the lead will have traits and tendencies of my own. ever since grade school the leads in my short stories have been prodominantely women. if they are male they tend to be children.  i do this because women and children in north america have more obvious reactions to emotional issues. men typically arent allowed to feel the true weight of a dramatic situation. i hate writting for lunkheads.

 

through analyzing my daydreams and just studying the art of writting fiction ive come to understand that any character you create will have traits and tendencies you yourself have. some conscious. some not. you can't create something from your mind without first starting with "your mind". even to create your complete opposite and doing everything possible so they dont have a trait associated with you; the character is still tied to you being that they are your complete opposite and in order to see the blueprint for this character we still have no need to look any furthur then you.

 

i find it interesting that you use this character, that you see as not you,  in your mind to show affection to one you have created. are you male or female in your daydreams? the character you create, is he/she your ideal mate? i wonder if you have intimacy issues and this is your way of achieving closeness. pretty distant for closeness if you ask my oppinion.

That's very interesting. I couldn't imagine killing off a character. 

Alexandra said:

I'm not myself in my daydreams either. I've never been. I'm usually male and the weird thing is I don't daydream about a better life. Usually the character is more troubled then me the difference is this character isn't afraid to show "his" weaknesses and is pretty open and has a big supporting family around. I've had 2 bigger daydreams that ive been working on for years. when i get bored i usually have that character die...

The relationships are always very complicated but the character always seems to find someone to be close with

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