Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
I have a question. Does anyone ever find it difficult to hold a relationship with another person when they have this condition?
I have had many on and off relationships with other guys my age, but never anything serious. I just wanted to know, that if I were to enter into a serious relationship, would this maladaptive daydreaming be destructive to my personal life?
I say yes. I find it makes me colder to my spouse, the more I DD the less I want to be around him. You know, you want to be left alone to DD. It seems hard to open up and be yourself or let them in. If you DD about romance I think it is worse. To me it is like having an EX on your mind, someone is always kind of, in between you and your partner. If that makes sense.
@Elude : how can you be sure that your husband has no clue about your MDD? I know you mentioned earlier on that he has own set of struggles with mental health, but surely he must have noticed that you tend be lost in another world? No? Yes?
This part depresses me the most of MDD. I know I can get a grip on it, it's at a manageable stage for me. But it saddens me that this will go on forever even when I'm in a strong relationship, and even if my partner would know about it. The fact that there will always be a parallel world in my head is something I will have accept. But my hope is that somehow I will reduce it's control significantly. Or maybe not.
I found out that MDD was a real thing and not just something weird that I did that I tried to hide from everyone until my wife discovered the wikipedia link about it and sent to me. MDD does not help get through the 'expected' trials and tribulations of any serious relationship. It's really hard to be communicative, I find myself taking longer to process information and when I do not respond to my spouse it causes even further contention. She is aware of MDD, and complains that she is not ever 'in my head' ... yes, mdd is definitely a relationship complicator if you ask me.
I was in a three year relationship that ended about a year ago (from non-MDD-related issues), and I told my boyfriend about my MDD after dating for about 7 months. We didn't live together, but we would occasionally go on vacation together. During vacations, it actually worked out well because I would tell him "I'm gonna go daydream for an hour or so" and he would go do things that I didn't particularly enjoy, like watch TV or play Xbox, and I would go daydream. I always wondered if it would be an issue with my future husband, since I usually daydream for an hour or two straight before I go to bed (which I don't do on vacation), I wonder if he would get annoyed with that. Bottom line: if he loves you, he's going to be okay with it, and if he's not then he's not the man for you!