Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
When we become old and start looking back at our lives, can we say that we have had a fullfilling life? Some of us daydream our lives away. Are we going to look back and think," damn, that was a good daydream! It was worth it!" Doesnt it feel like we are kind of missing out on real life? Thats kind of sad.
yes it is sad. It doesn't seem that we are making memories. I mean memories are usually made from events that stand out as very happy, or very sad. Or some strong emotion. I don't have strong emotions in normal everyday life. So I don't think I am making memories. Trying to remember the most recent thing that stood out in my life, a few moments of my son's graduation, about 5-6 yrs ago. So I guess my life is not that fulfilling since I can't seem to remember it.
Absolutely, sometimes I don't even remember what I did the day before; I must have fantasized all day long, but I really don't remember what it was about.
It's pretty sad seeing empty pages in my agenda, knowing I was in Lala-land all day, that day.
This depressing thought should be a very good motivator to get out there in the real world and make some real lasting memories!
I'm 32 and pretty much feel like I wasted my entire 20s. I feel extremely sad that I've spent my life fantasizing about achieving great things, learning instruments, etc, and now I may not have the space in my life (outside of work/kids) to do them, nor do I really enjoy and feel content with the things I *have* earned. I truly feel that fantasizing robs me of the ability to experience contentment. I want to change that.
I've been suffering from MD for many years already, and it's hard not to get sucked by the illusions in my head. I haven't achieved much in real life. There are times when I feel like surrendering, but in my heart, I know I can't give up the fight.
I am in my early 60's. I did manage to get an education, hold down a job for 35 years (now retired), get married (now divorced). But I spent most of that time not investing energy in things I really did know were important because so much energy went into daydreaming. I cannot see the daydreams as having had value in my life, in fact they drained my real world life of colour of interest because what can live up to a world where I control all outcomes?
I understand the previous poster's comment about being empty of emotion. I feel a lot more now that I can at least hold off the daydreams for periods of time. They do come back, but if we constantly flood our daydreams with emotions, and let's face it, daydreams are mostly about emotion, then how much can we have left over for the real world? I find I can feel things more now and interact more successfully with fewer daydreams.