Is it possible to fall in love with someone from your daydreams?

[Helen S]

    Hey guys! :) First of all I'm new here and I want to say I'm really happy to have found you! Secondly, I think I have fallen in love with a character from my fantasies. I can't stop thinking about him and knowing that he is not here really shatters me. I have given up on the idea of a boyfriend, because I feel no one could ever compare to him. I have read a lot of stories about maladaptive daydreaming but I haven't come accross anyone with the same problem. So, I was just wondering, have any of you ever experienced or heard about anything similar?? Thanks!

[Karina]

Hi! I'm also new here! My name is Karina, and I totally understand what you're saying! I feel like I am totally in love with someone in my daydreams too! It also makes me really sad that although this person does actually exist, he certainly isn't in my real life atall and never will be! It feels brilliant by the way, to be able to talk about this!!!! There is no way anyone else would understand!

[OhMyMagenta]

I absolutely have fallen in love with some of my DD characters. That love provides its own unique sense of safety & security. Having a love that's just yours. It also hurts when they cannot interact with anyone. You have someone so special you want to share, but can't.

[tasniiem chandraa]

i haven't not yet... 

[noddily]

Almost always a character or a person that I have almost no chance to ever see or that they would reciprocate to the level that I might want. It's an exceedingly tiring pursuit. Ridiculous desires over which I suffer. Reality will step in but I have to train myself in the concept. It's a matter of loneliness and exceptional vulnerability and self hatred that I have to overcome as independence and responsibility would allow me the freedom to be myself. I need to appreciate myself in my state of being alone instead of breaking into a really sick needy person.

[Rose]

There is always a blurred line for me, am I in love with them or do I wish I was them. I can never tell.

[Carly Cole]

My feelings for a couple main character in my DDs are exactly like how Rose feels for her characters. It's like, "is he my ideal man or is ideal self?" This usually confuses the hell out of me because my main characters are boys and I'm a girl and I don't like having a girl as my DD main character because it might as well be me and feel sorta depressing

[Chen Zhen]

Hello this is my first post.

I think so. I have had this condition for many years without knowing and I would often zone out as a kid and a teen into my world. My parents only started noticing my inefficient use of time when I was a teen in high school. They just thought I was lazy. Meanwhile I was escaping into my own world.

Many years later and I am more attached to my DD's than ever. I'm not sure I am curable. I don't think I even want to be cured.

I have been happily married to a character from my DD's for over 17 years now.

I also cannot find anyone in the real world to compare with my DD wife. The one real relation ship I have had in my life failed because I was less attracted to the real person than I was to my DD character. There have been instances where I have passed up opportunities because my lifestyle would be different from what is in my DD (which I have made HIGHLY realistic in my adult daydreaming)

[Sharon]

The main character of my DD is not myself, I actually am not in any of my DD's LOL I am sure that is some reason for that! But I think I can understand where you are coming from. Although my main character is not actually me I can feel the emotions that she would feel. So when I run across a picture, video, etc of her "husband" I do feel the adoration she has toward him. 

[Chen Zhen]

Is she someone that you would like to be? 
 
Sharon said:

The main character of my DD is not myself, I actually am not in any of my DD's LOL I am sure that is some reason for that! But I think I can understand where you are coming from. Although my main character is not actually me I can feel the emotions that she would feel. So when I run across a picture, video, etc of her "husband" I do feel the adoration she has toward him. 

[Sharon]

Yes I thought about that this morning. She is actually someone I would like to be..I guess for now I see her as like my best friend (even though we never interact in my DD) and I am actually quite jealous of her. Of her life, her relationships with her husband, friends, children etc. She has the ideal relationships I never had or will ever have. I have actually tried to "make" some of these characters in my own life. For instance my character has a guy who she used to date but come to find out he was gay so now they still love each other but are BFF's she refers to him as her "Gay Husband". So in my own life I at one time had a Gay BFF but through the years we lost that connection, as much as I try to hold on to it it is no longer there. I know if I didn't have this MDD I would have gave up on the relationship a long time ago, I keep trying to make it work because of my characters relationship with her own Gay BFF. 

Chen Zhen said:

Is she someone that you would like to be? 
 
Sharon said:

The main character of my DD is not myself, I actually am not in any of my DD's LOL I am sure that is some reason for that! But I think I can understand where you are coming from. Although my main character is not actually me I can feel the emotions that she would feel. So when I run across a picture, video, etc of her "husband" I do feel the adoration she has toward him. 

[Ilissia]

Hey, I'm new to this too. I have a similar experience going on. As if all the losers that are your reality compare nothing to the majestic person you created in your head. It gets me down sometimes, but what I try to do which makes me feel better is picture the person I typically make myself out to be when I'm with that special someone. I don't know if you picture yourself a little differently when you daydream, but if you do try focusing on improving towards that person. I have found that lately it has made me put a lot more emphasis on myself instead of on that other person and it has improved my confidence too. Not that it was THAT bad before. Haha!

[Ali Renee]

Hello, :)  I would not say I am in love with any of my MDD characters....but my daydreams are extremely romantic and often the stories in my head revolve around love, sex, and relationships. I have a very cold outer shell so people in my life would probably be surprised that I am really a romantic at heart. I am always imagining the perfect man and woman in my head and giving them an extremely passionate life. I can relate to what you are saying, I am not specifically in love with a character, but I think I am in love with just the idea of love.