How to cotrol ur daydream

[fay]

Hi everyone
I’m gonna give you my story in short.
Since i was a child, I was always daydreaming and that affected my studying. In high school, I decided to control it and I kind of succeeded I was daydreaming but less than before. I graduated from high school with great marks and I studied at university. It was the same, I suffered to make balance between my studying and daydream and I did it at the end with hard effort . I graduated from university and I did not get a job and because of that I got depressed In this time, I can’t really stop ,every time I create new story with alot of details and I become the hero of this story. I want really to stop because if I didn’t do it this time, I will be the prisoner of my daydream for rest of my life.

[Finrod Felagund]

I'm pretty similar as well. I use it as a coping mechanism. Been married to my wife for 15 years. Being that it hasn't been that pleasant has led me to escape into my other world which is an idealized version of myself, married to an idealized version of my wife with an idealized career. Obviously everything in this constructed universe trumps anything in real life. I feel I get more emotional stability through this other world, which really sucks, as it has dampened my affection and love with my spouse. I feel often guilty at times because it's as if I'm married to two different women. Almost like I'm cheating, but not. I just hope this will run its course and end.

[Aprelle Neal]

My daydreams are negative, so I definitely try to control them.  I do positive self talk, which brings me a lot of happiness and peace.  It's vastly superior to daydreaming about people being a nuisance.

[fay]

Could I ask you two personal questions?

Finrod Felagund said:

I'm pretty similar as well. I use it as a coping mechanism. Been married to my wife for 15 years. Being that it hasn't been that pleasant has led me to escape into my other world which is an idealized version of myself, married to an idealized version of my wife with an idealized career. Obviously everything in this constructed universe trumps anything in real life. I feel I get more emotional stability through this other world, which really sucks, as it has dampened my affection and love with my spouse. I feel often guilty at times because it's as if I'm married to two different women. Almost like I'm cheating, but not. I just hope this will run its course and end.

[Finrod Felagund]

Sure, go for it.

fay said:

Could I ask you two personal questions?

Finrod Felagund said:

I'm pretty similar as well. I use it as a coping mechanism. Been married to my wife for 15 years. Being that it hasn't been that pleasant has led me to escape into my other world which is an idealized version of myself, married to an idealized version of my wife with an idealized career. Obviously everything in this constructed universe trumps anything in real life. I feel I get more emotional stability through this other world, which really sucks, as it has dampened my affection and love with my spouse. I feel often guilty at times because it's as if I'm married to two different women. Almost like I'm cheating, but not. I just hope this will run its course and end.