Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Has anybody stopped this? Has anybody come clean? Or knows someone who has "come clean"?
Well i remeber watched one youtuber who said she was daydreaming and now shed didnt and i consider this possible as i think if the cause of DD ends we will be clean but that is nvr easy ..... The thing we should focus on is to have more control like not make daydreaming make us skip events skip meals skip studying make ur life miserable and when we have a true social life kind of suitable i think we will care about it more than daydreaming i just think that ...and till that time we should accept ourselves as it is and work on it but not love ourselves when we are just better no love ourselves in our bad times
I have learned to control it through drawings and carving out some time in my day to do it, so it doesn't take over my life, and it is working so far.
No..... I'm in and out constantly.
Whoops! Hope this doesn't post twice. Hit a key by accident.... In answer to your question I will say I've exchanged one thing for another. I believe, FOR ME, this is a form of depression. This started in childhood, about 5-ish maybe. I was the youngest of 4, pretty much the invisible child, very lonely, and suffered some abuse. I've since learned that I am empathic and so also a very sensitive being in a family of not so sensitive folks, growing up in a not so sensitive world. I relate all this because I believe it was my path to maladapative daydreaming. I think it may actually even have been something to keep me safe when I needed a safe place. Eventually (in my late 30s) I decided I simply wasn't going to do this anymore. It was tough going but I did it. Now, here comes the exchange. I have since been battling the classic depression b.s. and have gained weight (nuts!). I tried medications, none of which worked and just gave me new symptoms to deal with. In recent years I have worked with Reiki practitioners, shamans, and a psychic or two. May sound crazy to some, but I learned a lot. Recently I started acupuncture twice weekly and that also seems to help; it doesn't cure me but it keeps me out of the weeds. I hope this helps and maybe you can take comfort in knowing that there is still plenty more to learn and that this is not your final destination. You are on a journey.
I day dream an average of 1 hour per week, often times I go 2-3 weeks without daydreaming at all. From the ages of 5 - 17, I day dreamed at least 4 hours per day - and on weekends I'd often get up to 12 hours at a time.
I joined the Marines when I was a senior in high school, and in basic training I couldn't day dream at all for 13 weeks since I use a scarf and pace. Afterwards, I found my daydreaming decreased significantly due to having a roommate and a grueling schedule. I got married while active duty, and when I got out I went to college. After I graduated I started a career in internet marketing, which is pretty demanding and requires me to be "on" all day since I have multiple client meetings and write proposals for new business. My husband and I bought a large property and we now have a baby girl. I also have horses, birds, a dog and cat, a horseback riding group that I founded, and we just started our own side business selling music equipment online.
I don't think that improving your life is necessarily the key to daydreaming less, it's not having any time to yourself that did it for me. I am alone when I shower, lol. But I still have the desire to daydream when I'm stressed, I just have much less free time.
I've been daydreaming for a good decade and a half, since high school until about a year and a half ago when I started written fanfiction. All the time I used to spend daydreaming was soon taken over by writing. It wasn't an instantaneous substitution though. I'd daydream about plots that I wanted to write or scenes and things like that, but eventually I stopped needing the daydreams to write creatively. Basically what I did was substitute one addiction for another. Writing became my new obsession along with the feedback I got from my readers. That kind of euphoric newness has finally worn off, but I'm attempting to make a career out of it.
Maybe I'm supposed to be happy that I'm "normal" now, but I miss daydreaming, and it makes me sad that I can't fall into a daydream like I used to. I guess I'm just out of practice, but it's not the same. They're boring and I don't get fully engrossed in them anymore. I think meeting some online friends has also helped me to stop. I have people I skype with almost every single day, sometimes for hours at a time.
What Elizabeth G said about having less time to do it certainly applies to me as well. I just didn't have time to daydream after I found something else that I loved to do.