Gift or Curse

[Megan B]

Sorry all, I am new and I'm sure this has been talked about before but I am wondering how everyone here feels about MD. Do you look at it as a great thing or a horrible thing?

For me, I think the planned DDing is a gift but I think it's horrible when I can't focus enough to read a simple paragraph (or write this) without slipping in and out of DD land. It's hard to be constantly walking around in 2 different worlds.  I wish that I could keep the planned DDs but not have any when I don't try for them.

[Rashomon Effect]

I was just reading an article about this the other day, Megan.

The Origins of Positive-Constructive Daydreaming

[Roobles]

That's a really intresting article thanks for sharing, I think dd are very common and everyone gets them in different forms and ways. when I ask people do you dd everyone says yes but most people don't tell me what of as I think it's a private affair in your head. I don't see it as a burden most times but I wish I could slip into my dd world permenantly so i drag it with me and that urge is very much a burden. Maybe I could have been more successfully but being religious I know everything is planned by Gods will not mine.

Roger Lyda said:

I was just reading an article about this the other day, Megan.

The Origins of Positive-Constructive Daydreaming

[Megan B]

Thanks for the article, it was really interesting.

[greyartist]

A curse. I started compulsive daydreaming almost a year ago. It has drastically changed my life. Strained my relationships, robbed me of normal emotions, the ability to focus at work or enjoy the artwork and hobbies I used to. I went from being active in church, enjoing lots of creative activities, liked my job. Now I hate everything I do, from going to work to caring for my dogs. All my time is spent DDing, even when doing other things. I go through life wanted to be in a different world, the world in my head. In real life I function more like a zombie, going through the motions but not really living. a curse.

[Paris]

Definitely a curse. It makes me procrastinate doing important things, like studying or even taking a shower. It exacerbates my low self-esteem because I hate that I can't measure up to the gorgeous, perfect Paris in my fantasies. It prevents me from living the life I want to live.

[Truthful Alibi]

I think it depends on your outlook on life, your ability to control your DDing and the impact it has had on your life.

It can also be argued that everything has a good and bad side, all curses have a gift or all gifts have a curse.

Although my DDing causes me to:

• have bad concentration,
• stay in bed to DD,
•  procrastinate,
•  feel inferior compared to the 'DD me',
•  'remember' memories that aren't real and
• withdraw from my social life, it has also

 

• given me my amazing imagination,
• made me weird (which has actually made me popular with some people),
•  let me 'experience' things many other people never could,
• made me feel like a little 4 year old girl taunting people ("I know something you don't!" {singsong voice}) because I know about this and they don't, which makes me feel superior in a way
• let me do things I could/would never do in real life
• helped me when I was being bullied
• given me a way to entertain myself when bored
• let me meet lots of interesting people on this website

and it's made me who I am today. If I didn't have MD, I'd be very different, and, although in some ways that would be good, I like being me, and with every life there's gonna be good and bad points, and my MD actually helps me through them.

Sorry if this makes no sense but my brain is 2/5ths asleep, 2/5ths DDing and 1/5th focusing on this, if that, so yeah, it probably won't make sense.

[Christel Brock]

Personally, I think it is a curse, particularly at work because you cannot focus, I cannot retain information, I have to be told in numerous occasion the same infos over and over...it is a nightmare..

But despite this, I  would like to lose it completely, but  I need to find ways to focus and put my wild dream away.. it is very hard.. very difficult

Please advise if you have any trick..

[Marla Singer]

I think MD is a curse, but can be a gift potentially. i think that MD deserves alot more attention medically; in my opinion it as serious a mental condition as autism or even schizophrenia (probably spelt that wrong) because it is very controlling over our lives. Imagine if someone with schizophrenia went their entire lives without telling anyone about the voices in their head etc. I've only skimmed through some of the comments on here but i strongly agree with the points that MD causes low self esteem and dis-satisfaction because we compare ourselves to the perfect version of our selves we have created in our minds and we have great difficulty completing tasks because we are unintensionally DDing. Surely regarding things such as essay writing MD makes the job an awful lot harder than dyslexia yet people with dyslexia get extra time on exams, free laptops at university/college etc  MDers recieve nothing. I can't understand why so little research has been done into MD, my doctor hasn't even heard of it and although i feel it is ruining my life because of negative points listed above by Truthful Alibi there is no one i can turn to for help, even at university i do not qualify for deadline extensions etc because it is not a heard of condition. i think that if MD was better recognised and researched medically to the point where at least some medication to allow us to better control when we DD (as opposed to drifting off unitensionally and loosing hours of our day) we would be able to better enjoy and embrace the positive  aspects of MD and use them to our advantage.