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Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest

Finally How to cure MDD

Hello everybody, hope you are doing well.
I am writing this to you, because I claim I discovered the reason why we daydream excessively, why we want to escape real life and dive into fantasy world where we get what we want, feel the way we want to feel.
Long story short, I am a maladaptive day dreamer for so so long, ever since I can remember , and I did not accept it, I was irritated with myself, I surffed the internet million times looking for an answer to how to cure MDD.
Some people say:Avoid triggers, other people say do meditation, take pills, go cold turkey and just stop yourself from daydreaming.
All of the suggested tips above did not help me.
And I started to notice something, in all my daydreams I manifest all the feelings I needed to feel.
Feeling wanted, loved, taken care of, getting all the attention, impress someone.
I came to the realization that this symptoms (excessive daydreaming) stems from something deeper. And all I did all the time was to treat symptoms not the root of the problem by avoiding triggers, meditation and so on and so forth.
I never questioned myself once, why I wanted so bad to feel loved, taken care, wanted... Ect. That I would spend hours and hours daydreaming to feel it.
All of us have an inner child inside us, wounded, hurt inner child, needs to feel loved, taken care of, reassured.
Scientists say that on average if you were raised in almost a PERFECT, psychologically stable family, you would have at least say 22 childhood traumas.
Needless to say that I went through so many traumas more I can remember, I was bullied at school, almost deprived of love and attention from my parents, was a victim of my narcisst father, beaten really bad by father.
My inner child is super hurt, that's why I would rather dive into my fantasy most of the time, because I find comfort, love and attention there.
Healing your inner child is life changing, when you give him love, comfort and reassure him, you will find peace.

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Permalink Reply by ANGA on August 22, 2019 at 1:51pm

Thank you for this.

I've been a maladaptive daydreamer for as long as I can remember as well. The thing that's worked best for me is meditative prayer for sure. But I fell off the boat after having my children. I just can't seem to make the time. It's been interfering with my work and relationships, as I'm sure you understand.

I've been reading The Drama of the Gifted Child. It's been making me feel like I need to heal childhood wounds as well. Have you ever heard of Theophostic Healing? It's a type of meditation that takes you back through memories in need of healing. You're supposed to have someone guide you through it. It is a Christian meditation, so I don't know if that works for you. Just wanted to pass the info along. :)

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Permalink Reply by Silver Swan on August 25, 2019 at 7:31am

I've been a maladaptive daydreamer since I was in junior high, starting with a trigger. As I got older, these worlds got thick and vivid, and took over my judgements in reality. It effected all of my relationships with others, my education and career life too. I wound up under the poverty line in my adulthood, which was very deserving. As people who I worked with, or even went to school with, easily found out I was daydreaming. My mom was the last to find out, and she was very irate. She told me that I'd fail at everything, all because of my mind. She also warned me people will be seeing all the strange things I'm doing, when my mind isn't on earth. So being an MD'er stopped being funny. I decided to go cold turkey and get rid of daydreaming completely.
However, others still find me rather distracted and wonder if I'm listening. I tend to drift off out of disinterest to my real surroundings.

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Permalink Reply by SuSu on September 4, 2019 at 4:19pm

ANGA and Sliver Swan, I appreciate that you took the time to read what I typed, and would like to hear your thoughts on my new article on my blog.
Let's spread the truth about daydreaming, it is not a disorder nor something you are born with/can't control.
Those false assumptions generates bad feelings such as feeling guilty, ashamed, lost, angry. All just serves you to stay in this closed circle and continue daydreaming for the rest of your life.
You Need to realize daydreaming is a symptom NOT a disorder, once you take care of your inner child wounds all these fantasies will be gone, because you wouldn't need them anymore to shift your focus from the pain buried inside yourself. You are healed.