Fearing reality won't live up to my MD

[Juliana Rose]

Does anyone else get in almost depressive/fearful moods that their life will never satisfy them the way daydreaming does? 

Lately i've been worrying that in years to come that I won't be satisfied with what becomes of me and fear that I will spend my first years as young adult wasting away in what I wish I could do or live in. My MD often takes me into situations where in reality they are not possible or highly unlikely and I don't want to keep fearing that i'll never be as content in my life as I am in those daydreams. 

[Kit McDaydream]

It depends on what your daydreams are...if its something like a big house in the country and more money than you could work towards it in real life getting a job or changing your job, going back to study to be able to get an higher paid job in the future or something like that. 

If it centre's around meeting people you could join groups (in real life) or a dating site (if your daydreams are about finding the love of your life).  When I have fantasies I sometimes also imagine how I could make it happen in real life and go through the scenario's to see if I could see if something would work or not or note any obstacles and try and work through what I could do about it.  Though it depends if your daydreams are just characters from a fantasy film or whether they're about something you dream about could happen in real life eg winning the lottery...helps if you enter it in real life etc.

[Paul Rapp]

Oh, your life will never be as good as your daydreams, not at least if you are doing the daydreaming right.

But that is nothing to be depressed about. While you can't really make your daydreams real, you can use them as inspiration for what you can do in your life. My early mad scientist fantasies did inspire my career choices. I got a degree in physics and became an engineer, and while it is true that I never built a time machine or a starship, I did do some pretty cool things.

I also wrote some of my daydreams as stories. I never concentrated on being a writer, but I am starting to go that direction now. I saw over the years that stuff very similar to my MD stories turned up in popular fiction and media over the years. Can't write those now because they'll be called "derivative" or even plagiarism, but it was cool to see that I could have been on the right track if I had become a writer.

But it's true that there is also a downside. I spent way too much time in relationships with girls that I never really had a relationship with when maybe I could have had a real relationship with a real person. real people often don't live up to the ones that you create in your daydreams, but real people are real and your characters are all in your head.

So the message is to keep your MD in perspective. It can be a gift or a curse. You are the only one that can decide which it will be.

[Fishno7]

That really depends on what your daydream is about. Some of them have daydreams very close to real life, and they may seek change that may make them be more comfort in real life situations, transforming their md in a positive way. I am not sure about yours, but for mine it is a fantasy in a complete alternative world.

So throughout the years I have accepted, or have never expected my md to become real. Life has difficulties, but I learned to think of it another way, which is when life isn't going to satisfy me, my MD will always do. Sounds a little bit passive, but it gives me more energy to value the reality world, which sometimes reduce my desire to submerge into my MD. You don't need to view your MD as dead by picking up courage to due with real life; it maybe a booster, which can be used if you really needed it.

[S.A.]

This is some good advice :)

Paul Rapp said:

Oh, your life will never be as good as your daydreams, not at least if you are doing the daydreaming right.

But that is nothing to be depressed about. While you can't really make your daydreams real, you can use them as inspiration for what you can do in your life. My early mad scientist fantasies did inspire my career choices. I got a degree in physics and became an engineer, and while it is true that I never built a time machine or a starship, I did do some pretty cool things.

I also wrote some of my daydreams as stories. I never concentrated on being a writer, but I am starting to go that direction now. I saw over the years that stuff very similar to my MD stories turned up in popular fiction and media over the years. Can't write those now because they'll be called "derivative" or even plagiarism, but it was cool to see that I could have been on the right track if I had become a writer.

But it's true that there is also a downside. I spent way too much time in relationships with girls that I never really had a relationship with when maybe I could have had a real relationship with a real person. real people often don't live up to the ones that you create in your daydreams, but real people are real and your characters are all in your head.

So the message is to keep your MD in perspective. It can be a gift or a curse. You are the only one that can decide which it will be.

[Silver Swan]

I absolutely feel this way right now. I fear that my future will stay being discontented and unsatisfying, or maybe even worse. 
It's all because I preferred to dwell in my day dream life, rather than use my thinking cap and use my brain to make appropriate strategies—so my goals would actually come true. Day dreaming will just slow you down and fog your mind like you just had drink.

The point is, reality will never be as golden as your day dreaming. How can it? That's just life with human kind. Getting into your day dreams is like strongly believing in a fairy tale. You have to pace yourself to make realistic goals and action plans, also make sure you can make the budget sufficient enough to your needs—this definitely comes with hard work. If you want to make this happen, you really need to pay attention, quite frankly.

It's true, not everything about reality will guarantee you'll feel perfectly happy and content in life. My whole family isn't perfect. Marriage isn't perfect. Relationships aren't perfect. You may have child issues. Your career may not be perfect. Life will not be perfect. A crisis could happen—dick things up. It's a very unfortunate world out there. You have to be careful too, especially around people who you don't know. I've met so many people out there who instantly didn't like me—expressing it aloud. I've lost so many good opportunities because of my screw ups—normally involving day dreaming.

My advice is just to an action plan of where you really want to go from here. Make sure it can actually assure you a greater future than the past. It will take hard work and dedication, and being mentally aware all the same. Make sure future events look appealing enough to make you content and happy.