Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Magenta: I totally hear you about the social awkwardness thing. I too scrutinize every conversation, feel humiliated and then get back to the daydreams, where my self-esteem is much improved. Your comment and Cordellia's highlighted something for me -- my biggest trigger is other (real life) people. The purely fictional approach sounds slightly safer emotionally (maybe). It's fascinating to hear everyone's experiences and see that most of us are doing the same thing, but each in our own way.
It's an interesting question you raise if it's wrong to enjoy fantasy as much as some enjoy reality. I would say not, but for me the "crashes" and realisation that it's not real spoils the fantasy and makes me incapbale of enjoying fantasy as much as reality. I think if we weren't here, we would not be troubled by our fantasies and would not have seen the need to search for or joing a forum about this issue. People happy in their lives would not be concerned, or even question, if they are right to be happy.
J Noland said:
This is a great post that I haven't discovered yet. I think the only time I "maladaptive" daydream is when I'm *crashing.* When I was younger the dd'ing would affect my schooling and sleep schedule which was maladaptive. But now I can get severely depressed when I'm realising that real life will never be like fantasy life. Sometimes I just don't care, I feel like Mal, the character in Inception who is always trying to get Leonardo DiCapprio's character to stay in the dream. Other times it's like a brick wall of reality that hits me. I force myself to feel the regret of not really living a life. But I wonder, if life is what you make it, then just enjoy the dd's for the pleasure that they give. Is it wrong to enjoy a fantasy just as much as someone else enjoys reality? Ugh, existential crisis.
It certainly makes sense to me. I agree "crashing" is a great word. And it is so painful to learn things you really didn't want to know, when, as you said, you thought you had things under such good control.
My husband just handed me a "dream catcher." Wow! What can I say?
I could relate to Mal, I like how they call her "Mal" too. She's kind of the deceptive/seductive part of dreaming.
I can "crash" at any time. I'll be happily enraptured with a dd and then all of a sudden it's like the movie set falls apart and I'm just there alone. It's the worst feeling.