I am having such a hard time controlling my maladaptive daydreaming. It consumes my entire day and I feel like my triggers are everything. I find myself go into these realities which are completely different and it seems like getting every scenario in my fantasy is more important than what is happening in my day to day life. I do have a significant other but he works long hours and I am by myself most of the time, in a town that's basically far from everything. It feels so strange to be going through this. This is the first time that I am talking about it and I guess I am deciding to try to gain some control back in my life. This change on I guess because my 21st birthday is coming up and I want to figure out how to deal with this so that it does not haunt me for the rest of my life. I live relatively far from my one of my best friend's and she is busy most of the time. What can I do to get my life back and to try to stop my fantasy world from crushing my reality?

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I've posted some tips people have suggested on the right side of the main page.  Keep trying things until you find what works for you.  I only daydream less when I'm having a panic attack, or I'm busy doing other things I enjoy.  Are there other things you enjoy enough that they will distract you?  I mean fun things.  I also daydream less when I'm engaged in conversations on the internet.  What works for me may not necessarily work for you, but don't give up.  It can get better.  

I haven't found my thing yet that helps me to not daydream, but I'm trying to it's just hard. Sometimes I just find hours going by without realizing it. It's just hard to see it getting easier. I'll check out the tips and I hope they can help, thank you so much for responding, it makes it so much easier to deal with when you can talk about it.

I wish I knew what would work for you, but it's different for everyone.  Don't give up.  We're here for you.  

Bri said:

I haven't found my thing yet that helps me to not daydream, but I'm trying to it's just hard. Sometimes I just find hours going by without realizing it. It's just hard to see it getting easier. I'll check out the tips and I hope they can help, thank you so much for responding, it makes it so much easier to deal with when you can talk about it.

Find something that you like that involves some aspect of your DD but isn't actually day dreaming in itself. Examples that help me:

-I write graphic novels based on my DDs...while I'm writing them I can't be DDing as well

-I'm in an imaginary band (as well as real ones...) so sometimes I write songs for my band and make gig posters up, although if anyone found these they'd be a bit confused. For instance, if a character in your DD has a hobby or something, try taking it up. 

After a while you may find yourself enjoying a hobby or something without the need for your DD. That's not to say that you'll be free of it forever...I'm still not...but it might help. I never used to be able to practice any of my instruments without being part of my imaginary band, and now after a bit of practice, I can just be 'me' and play. It's worth a try?

I find talking about it on this site really helps.  Just getting your thoughts and worries down and having people who really understand what you are going through supporting you is beneficial.  The one thing that I personally CANNOT do is tell myself "Wow you haven't daydreamed all day! THAT IS AMAZING! Its been months since I haven't daydreamed all day"  because as soon as I realize I haven't been daydreaming I start daydreaming like crazy!

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