Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Actually, it is not necessary to have a trauma to become a MDer; the point you referenced to, was an old article and since then there are many MD cases that are reported to have no relation to trauma, including me, who self-identified as MDer but never experience any trauma before. If I am not wrong, the professor that published that article also realised that MD is not limited to childhood trauma in the next researches he conducted.
Teenage life is kinda strange; sometimes, for people like me(or us) that doesn't have the social skills to cope with friendships well, the urge of peer pressure would push our limits. We behave strangely, seeking a way to get along with people who we don't truly like, and after a few years when we look back, we often just wonder why tf we do that. All in all, this kind of frustration(during the teenage years) would very easily bring MD into play due to our imaginative character, as you said as a coping mechanism. Given that your case is more severe than mine, I truly feel the pain.
Most of the people with MD never had any trauma. It's self-inhibition that's a prerequisite for developing MD. The same energy that would have been expressed outwards had you actively confronted the bullies back then got turned inwards and started animating your inner world. Your MD is how you come in touch with the lost courage that didn't get conjured when it was supposed to. You have the drive to change but your drive is misdirected and out of this misdirection MD is born. Even in cases of MD where more severe trauma was involved, MD stems not from the trauma itself but from powerlessness to express and confront whatever caused it.
Not necessarily. Kids are prone to daydreaming and living in their heads but these traits are nothing abnormal and are naturally outgrown. I would personally never consider the core defining characteristic of MD to be excess or procrastination but rather emotional dissociation. The moment you developed the tendency to conjure courage or high self-esteem in daydreams while failing to do the same in reality probably marked the onset of your MD.
Some kids are more prone to avoidant tendencies, which puts them at risk of developing an addictive defense mechanism in order to come in touch with emotions they otherwise can't, but I think there has to be a particular trigger, which is usually inability to feel or express an important aspect of oneself - self-esteem, sexuality, speaking up, etc.
I don't think you can develop MD just like that, without a reason. Because when you fantasize, you are always returning to something; sometimes to a pleasant emotion, sometimes to an emotional release or simply to lack of anxiety or a sense of distraction. Which means that these things are normally absent from the waking conscious, and MD is simply a response to that absence and an attempt to reverse it.
My advice to you would be to analyze your daydreams, identify the emotions that drive your urges and try to remember the time you stopped experiencing them on your own skin and instead resorted to fantasy to experience them there.
Wow so interesting! So do you think that the way I am as a child was a prerequisite for developing MD based on what you said?
MD is an addiction and a coping mechanism. It's really hard for me to believe it's not connected to trauma. It certainly was with me. Perhaps some people don't recognize the trauma that caused them to go inward because it was such a part of their normal lives. But something cause you to 'escape'. I was about 9 years old when I started. We moved to a foreign country, my mother has NPD we moved almost every year. New schools new faces, no family I was isolated and miserable so I started to MD.