Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Thanks, Jennifer! That is very kind :) I'm not sure if I'm strong, I mean, I tried many times but I couldn't make it until I was between the devil and the deep blue sea (Does anyone say that? In Spanish we say between the sword and the wall but this appears to be the translation. Sounds a little tragic the English version xD).
Maybe you could try something like that, make a lot of commitments that you can only finish by stop daydreaming, otherwise you let people down. Sounds awful but it worked for me :)
I thought I couldn't stop it too, until I did it. So you can do it too!
Oh wow...I feel like I just watched a movie. Thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This is SO inspiring. I'm proud of you. Many of us aren't as strong as you. I've tried to quit many times, but I have never been strong enough to succeed. I can't even believe it's possible. :O
Congratulations, and best of luck to you in all of your endeavors. If you've conquered MD, you are capable of conquering anything.
-Jennifer Lynn xx
Thanks for your reply Sarah!
When I was at high school, my daydreaming was very compatible I would say with my freetime. But at Med school it's not. I know what you mean. I used to daydream, then try to study but it was hard to focus, then I got but grades because of that. And what did I use to do when I got those bad grades? Daydream more of course! To feel better about my self. It was kind of a vicious circle I needed to break at some point before it consumed me.
Thanks for you good wishes, I hope you will soon get over MD :)
sarah anderson said:
I totally agree with you about the "we fill the hollowness with imagination". That's exactly my thoughts. Something that helped me getting over MD is to analize my daydream and look solutions in the real world (With that I don't mean a therapist). I used to daydream I had good friends with whom I could share anything, in reality I didn't have such friend, not because I hadn't any friends but because it's very difficult for me to share my feelings or thoughts.
This year I made two great friends, and I've started to speak my mind although it made me very anxious (Talk about what I think always make me anxious, I'm afraid of people would think about it even with silly things people wouldn't mind). And my daydreams changed, my imaginary friends disappeared. I think because I was already satisfied with that aspect in my life, so I didn't need to fill it with dreams.
If you think it for a minute, you will realize all that almost all your dreams hide something you secretly want in your life. Or at least my dreams did. I dreamed with friends to share my thoughts, love, attention abilities I don't have (Playing instruments for example) or being the best in something.
Maybe trying to get those thing in your life will help you stop daydreaming. I got over the friends dream by sharing with real friends and the musician dream by taking some piano classes at the university, it wasn't that cool like in my dreams but I stopped dreaming about it once I tried! I love hearing it but I find boring playing it. Once I didn't want to do it anymore I stopped dreaming about it.
sarah anderson said:
Ya i did the same in the starting. I used to dd more when something bad in the reality used to happen ... ya it turnned out to be a vicious circle and then i realized that md is consuming the good out of me and then i decided to change ... and iam sure that one day things would be much better because thaey have been better for quite a long time i.e, 1.5 months ... thanks for the good wishes ... and you said in mohsin kazi's discussion that you daydreamed because of anxiety and not vice versa ... i totally agree,,, a person enters md world to fill in the hollow space present in real life but the mistake we make is that we fill the hollowness with imagination and not the real stuff ...
Hi Agent 53!
Wow! You are a medicine student too, and you stopped daydreaming the same date I did! Crazy, isn't it? I mark a cross in my calendar every day I haven't daydreamed. It's like my little price at the end of the day for hanging there, do you do the same?
agent 53 said:
i havent daydreamed since november 23rd....i am also a mediceiine student.....hopefully one day i would be normal....
Hi Kati Jo!
Thank a lot for that comment! It makes feel very good about myself (That helps me staying away from daydreaming!). I know you can do it! If there is so many people out there living happily, why wouldn't we be able to do the same?
Pay attention to your daydreams. As I wrote in the comment above for Sarah, I think daydreams are the way your mind tells you what you want in your life. In my opinion filling this wishes in the real life will make you stopped daydreaming and avoid the triggers.
Kati Jo said:
wow.... tears are in my eyes... You didn't need perfect English to get the point across. Thank you for sharing this story and I'd like you to know how proud I am of you for having such STRENGTH to do what you had to do, bless you. I will take some strength from this as well in my journey to transcend from the daydreaming world to the real world so that I can be happy and successful in reality too. This was so inspiring, again thank you. I wish you all the best, you deserve it. This shows us all, like Jennifer before me said (and maybe others) IT IS POSSIBLE!
Thanks for the letter :)
I recently managed to control of my DD, but still barely keep things that way. Reading your letter made me realize it is because I have filled my room with triggers. It is important, because I'm also about to write some university exams. I don't have the strength to erase all my videogames, but I'm shutting off the PC for the rest of the month. You helped me realize something important. Thank you :)