Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Hi there, I'm Sara, and I just found out about MD. I'm so relieved, as most of you guys can imagine. I've thought for so long I must have ADD or Aspergers or something. It's such a great feeling to be able to give a name to what I have.
I started daydreaming when I was about 7 or 8. I remeber the first one perfectly. I was obsessed with animals, but could never have one since my mom was allergic. So one night I imagined I lived on this huge farm with an insane amount of dogs, cats, snakes, horses, and so on. I remember thinking to myself 'Why haven't I thought of this before?'
I'm 14 now, and it's taking over my life. My dreams, you see, constantly change. I often use my favorite characters from books, TV, and video games. But it's like a drug. As each fantasy loses it's novelty, it's kinda of 'shelved' in my mind, for when life get's to hard and I need something familiar, where it's exciting and comforting at the same time.
I'm always on the lookout for a new book, new plot, new characters. The best of these things get's ripped out and sewn together in my worlds.
I love my MD, and can't imagine life without it. It makes me me. I never wanted to be normal, but it's getting extreme. For the first time in my life, my MD isn't giving me and advatage in school. I used to be able to just understand everything and relate it to my DD, but now I sort of just drift through.
I need help, but I don't feel there's anyone I can go to in my life.
There are schools that are democratic. I know highland school, and Leeway Sudbury School are boarding, but you can probably find some close to you. There are various day programs around, that are slightly different. You can look in your area too. Perhaps a Waldorf school would be good too. You're just starting high school? I think you have time to work out strategies for school, but some help wouldn't hurt. Also there are alternatives like I mentioned.
Hey Sarah, you seem very worried, that your MD is negatively affecting your school work. You still enjoy your MD, and it's not as helpful as it ounce was. I don't know everything about your specific situation, so just tell me if something resinates. Do you find that the work got harder, requires more of your focus, or time? Can you think of anything outside of your DD which would add to this? You say it's getting extreme. Any idea why.
I'm new to MD as well, but I have had trouble in school, for various other reasons as well. I've had many diagnoses suggested, depending on who you asked. I'm 20 now, but struggled through school. I ended up graduating online. Although I'm not sure I'd recommend, it's an option, that can work. There are still plenty of other solutions to what you described. I'd recommend self exploration. I'm sure that you have many strengths, along with your MD. Think about those, and how they could help you.
The MBTI is helpful, but finding your type online can be hard. There are people who can help. I'd recommend Mike here's his email firstname.lastname@example.org. He has a youtube channel called NF Geeks with Dr.Mike. I would recommend looking at this as well. http://web.cortland.edu/andersmd/learning/gregorc.htm I technically a model for people 18 and over, but that's because Anthony Gregorc thought they were less likely to be influenced by their parents, teacher, or friends. I think you should be good. It's not an official test, but may help. Grade School tends to be Concrete Sequential in nature. Find the one you relate to, and it may help.
There are many helpful strategies here on this site, that you could try. Also think if any amount of problem solving, or strategies will help. It's something to think about and talk to your parents, here are some types of school I would recommend at least looking up. montessori schools, sudbury valley schools, vocational schools(particularly creative focused) Not they're for you, but just throwing it out there. Good luck! :)
Dont feel like your alone, because you aren't alone. My DD too takes over my life mostly when im stressed and there's just too much going on.
But it's the way you deal with things, DDing helps you get through, and makes you go somewhere else. In a way its like your comfort zone, a place you can go and be free. There is nothing wrong with this. Also like me, i do it because i enjoy it every single day, and for me too it will never go away.
I've been doing mine as far as i can remember and i'm now in my 20's. There's so many people here of different ages, people who have been doing it longer then us. So you honestly don't have anything to worry about.
Problem is, is finding the balance, you don't want to lose DD, as so many people including myself i assure you here don't want to lose theirs. A lot of people on here have talked about triggers, what triggers you to DD?
Maybe finding a way to distract yourself from DDing. It is kind of difficult though, easy said then done. Just remember your not alone, and there's loads of people here who will help you understand DDing better and maybe help you through this journey your going through, we all here want to help each other.
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