Hello everyone

[Miguel Guzman Duque]

First of all, thanks a lot to Cordellia Amethyste Rose for creating this website. It has given me a lot of

courage to finally know what was different about me and that there are more people like me somewhere else.

I've had MD at least since I was 12 years old and now I feel my entire life is on debris: I've yet to finish my studies, almost no work experience, very few (real) friends and need economic help from my parents. While it is true that a great deal of these troubles are also derived from my Schizoid Personality Disorder, which I also have, MD has definitely played an important part on them by disconnecting me from reality.

It is very sad because I believe people with MD are endowed with a great gift that can provide a different, more enriching and deeper way of experiencing life. As many people here, I certainly won't give away my daydreaming. But I also feel miserable when I'm forced to return to the real world to confront it's emptiness. Five months ago I even had some thoughts of the really bad kind, you know. I went out with a friend who had just returned from the Netherlands and realized how different I was from her and started thinking about how many things I've missed, it was really hard. Fortunately, I think I've pass through that stage. Since I knew about MD and SPD I no longer look to myself as a kind of mistake or freak. In fact, I think I hate SPD more than I do MD.

I also wanted to share that maths are also of great help in controlling daydreaming. I don't mean anything complicated like integrals and so, just everyday simple sums and products done on a regular basis. Puzzles or logic games also do but easy ones preferably (if they're too difficult they may trigger daydreaming instead, besides being frustrating!)

[Miguel Guzman Duque]

Thanks everyone for the comments, I really appreciate them. I also hope my suggestions are of help.

I think any activity that helps in controlling daydreaming shouldn't be considered a waste of time, even if it might seem trivial. For instance, when I suddenly need to concentrate on something (and hence not daydream) I spend a quarter hour or so reading superheroes profiles on the Internet beforehand. It often works and I can at least complete what I had to do.

[Cyan]

Music, TV, and books are my main triggers but I find that all math is hard for me. The only thing that really helps is simple trigonometry. 

Other than that, I usually try to keep from daydreaming by going on tumblr, but that is still a waste of time. I don't really know what else to do to help, but I hope my suggestions helped you.

[Mai Xiong]

:) puzzles is a great way for me to daydream while playing at the same time, unless there is someone there with me. But yes, I do think math helps. I don't tend to daydream when I am doing math problems, I actually very enjoy it because I feel it stretch my brain.

I agree with Miguel that don't envy other. Everyone does that, comparing and wish what would it be like if you have experience what other had. Even I do it and I would catch myself.

[Iris]

Welcome Miguel,

I think it is so important, that we accept our lives and our personalities. This is our main problem - we run away from ourselves into our daydreams. When your friends experience interesting things, don't envy them - it is their life, you have yours.

Without MD, I'm sure, I'd lead a different, more interesting life. But this wouldn't be me. With all my experience I had since my childhood and with my personality - this is where I stand. I can only try to make now the best out of it.