ever heard of Invert Narcissism?

[lamira]

I have last posted here last year and since my therapist has helped me shed light on my unusual daydreaming. It turns out I am a inverted narcissist. What is it? among other things it's immense preoccupation with fantasies of ideal beauty, power, money or other...but its's all done within the privacy of our mind. That's why we call them the INVERT Narcissists- That's because on the exterior the individual typically appears modest, even shy so that nobody knows what is going on inside them- unlike the Classic Narcisssism who flaunts their exaggerated sense of self.

[Mel BabyDollieDeath D]

Very intriguing I must say. It seems I've been able to relate to almost every blog post or group. And T.J definitely makes a good point about MD possibly being a symptom of I.N. I just get so confused sometimes when I'm researching all of these conditions as they can all be so similar. So how do you know exactly which one your suffering from? I use the term "suffering" from my own personal life. I know this isn't the case for everybody, but it definitely is for me. I just wish I had the courage to be open about it enough to seek some form of help. I seem to have a lot of mental issues ... I could have multiple conditions. 

Sorry if I rambled a bit. I just need to get these emotions and thoughts out of me. It makes me feel SO much better. I've been feeling a lot better since joining the site.

[J Noland]

wow, this is really enlightening for me. A huge fiasco of a relationship that I had was with an extrovert narcissist (an obvious diagnoses if you ever spent 5 seconds with the guy). Of course this is the relationship that I sometimes dwell on in DD's. I have passed up perfectly great relationships because the men have probably not projected enough (narcissistically speaking) to me. Therefore they were substandard somehow. Whoa I just realized all of that because of your blog post! Excuse me I'm going to go and look up everything I can on introvert narcissism...

[lamira]

When we come to understand narcissism we find that narcissists are masters at projection.

[lamira]

TJ: yes! Put in this way, I guess it would also be a symptom of MD. That said ofcourse not all people who are MD are necessarily Invert Narcissists too. But whatever the condition, all big-time daydreamers I would presume must have one thing in common, (in my opinion) in that they must be somewhat dissatisfied with their own reality.

But Marla you're right, because the invert or closet Narcissist is primarily the root of a deficiency in ego, of insecurity (just like the classic Narcissist actually; except that the Invert is not as well-equiped in life and usually wavers between feelings of superiority and inferiority).

In fact like you say Roxanne, it IS a type of codependent whose ideal image of who they are or who they want to be, can be best-mirrored back to them by a narcissist; who have the ability to put us up on a pedestral but also dubbed 'energy vampires', this is a highly self-destructive partnership (for the invert Narcissist,that is). But, no I'm not presently in relationship with a Narcissist but I've just come out of one, not knowing it at the time or what they were doing to me. But now I am aware of it I will try to break that pattern and learn to like normal persons without those highs and thrills and those projections that put me very far UP UP on a pedestral, only then to crash..

 

Anyways this is a bit off course. But it's been interesting in my case to find out why I cant stop daydreaming, the dreams and fantasies in which the subject was always me. I have read that some of you have complicated plotlines with lots of characters- not me. I only come up with a lot of stories, humour and dramatic scenarios, in my head that don't stop, kind of like a Soap opera, lol :) Thanks for sharing!

[roxanne]

Aren't invert narcissists always involved with narcissists?  It's been a while since I studied them, but I thought it was one half of a relationship.  Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?

[marla]

makes a lot of sense to me. In the "real world" I'm what people consider an especially shy and introverted person, and an under achiever. But all of this changes in the privacy of my own mind, where I'm absolutely perfect- beautiful, highly intelligent and confident, surrounded by people that look up at me. I often hear from people what a modest person I am and how I hardly ever think of myself- if they only knew! I guess part of the charm of the daydreams is that I just seem so perfect in them- everything I'm not in real life.

[lamira]

Oops I forgot to ask my question about Invert Narcissism- ( Subject I just wrote about ABOVE )

 

Anyways it's my apparent 'conflict'! And I was wondering if anyone else can relate? you can read up on it and let me know later if you wish. There are ofcourse other traits to the inverted Narcissists which you might find does not apply to you or maybe does. Anyhow I'm just curious!! let me know ;)