We are all daydreamers here. Can you relate or help me out with my problem?

My dreamworld exists in a different place and time and my real family isn't in it. In fact, most characters I identify with are orphans and have at least one sibling (in real world, I'm only child). Everytime one of my family members snaps me out of my DDing, I look at them for a moment as they were strangers and I don't know where I'm. It is hard to explain. I could describe my feelings as if I was an adopted child. I'm not really adopted but it is probably the best way to express my problem. I feel like my real family is the family that brought me up well, but all that time, I knew I was adopted and worst of all - I knew who my biological family were, but I could never meet them, talk to them or let them even know that I exist. (Biological family = families of my DD characters that I will never have.)

My real family are great people and I truly love them, but I have a strong feelings for the parents/siblings/etc. of my characters. Especially ones I'm identifying with.

I feel like I'm letting my real family down when I think that, but can't help myself.

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Comment by Dreamcatcher on December 31, 2012 at 6:04pm

Thank you for all your replies. It is very much like you said, I use characters as people supporting me in difficult or emotionally draining situations, not just for fun and enjoyment. Having so many close people around (even though made-up ones in my mind) is comforting. My own secret security blanket. Especially since I have always had a hard time opening up and these efforts usually ended with an argument or an uncomfortable silence.

Comment by Annie on December 30, 2012 at 11:18pm
Strange, my daydreams center around the main characters being orphans and being mistreated. I also sometimes feel the same way against my own family.

I guess what I'm trying to say is maybe you and I feel this way not because we entirely believe we re adopted but we feel this way. This could be due to the fact that we know we are different from the rest of our family. Where daydreamers. And we may feel Misunderstood, alone, or different as if we don't belong with them. Our mind is the only place we can truly feel ourselves especially if our family may be a little critical sometimes.

Well that's only my opinion, I could be wrong. Feeling are sometimes really hard to understand.
Comment by Mill on December 30, 2012 at 2:48pm

It's extremely common for my family members to only get 1-2 word answers. I can't tell you the last time I have held a conversation with my dad. I'm much more open with my mother. I get exactly what you're saying. When I'm interrupted I do get irritated and try to find the quickest possible route to being alone and in my mind.

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