My daydreaming adventures started early. Like most children I imagined a world in which I was important, special, needed -- but my daydreams never included magic: no flying cars, no wizards wand. For the most part I would say that I created, in my mind, a world much like the one outside with subtle variances. I became quite good at imagining.
At puberty my daydreaming started to pay off. My flights of fancy had led me to books which expanded my vocabulary and the time spent just thinking led me to play social situations over and over again in my head until they were utterly perfected. Every nuance decided. All variables accounted for an answered. This led to great social success. Most of my peers thought me intelligent and confident.
Being overconfident and unprepared for consequences... I was a mother at 18. When my son was small I would lay awake at night imagining us somewhere else, somewhere with more money, somewhere where his father hadn't left or never existed. I knew I loved my son when I couldn't disappear without taking him with me. If someone was going to love me in my world, they had to take him too. I couldn't separate myself from him mentally.
My son is now 11. About a year ago I started imagining a world where I had no children and it scares me to death.
My life is completely lost. I have constructed in my mind a convincing set of circumstances to replace all human contact. It has progressed to the point where the hugs I imagine feel better than the ones I receive although I cant remember when that was exactly. I fake it for my kiddo, but I stopped faking for everyone else. I find myself crying over imagined arguments, imagined rejections. The world I create isn't one of pure whimsy. It can be hell. I keep telling myself that I will snap out of it, that I will be better, that I can find a better job when the market gets better, that I'll lose the weight I want to lose, that someday someone will want to talk to me again...and that I'll be brave enough to meet new people again...and not feel like I'm from another planet.
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