I'm trying to find the why.

[Morgan Everett]

Literally, I am trying to find out why. I was never abused, raped, or anything like that. Nothing bad happened to me or is happening. I have great friends and my parents are together. They don't live together at the moment though. The only thing I can think of is that my mom really pressures me to do well in school and I am constantly in over my head with AP classes and whatnot. But i can not seem to ever stop daydreaming. Every minute of every day i seem to be doing it! Its horrible and i procrastinate all the time now. So why do you do it?  i mean, i'm not trying to be creeper but i'm just curious. Why do you think you do it?

[Wish Upon A Wish]

I'm the same, I have no reason. According to Cynthia's study, though, only I think it was 27% of MDers actually had suffered some sort of abuse as a child.

I think part of mine could be 'cause I used to be really shy, and too scared to talk to many people, but other than that, I've no reason. Mum also said that when I was little, and my older sibs were at school, I could hardly keep myself entertained for two minutes before I asked her to play with me again, so maybe I started DDing from that? You might have had something similar. I don't even remember that, though, 'cause I was only two.

[phoenix62]

I don't know if this would help you....but, here goes:

The first I recall going off into my own world, as it were, was when I was about 4? Something like that. I suspect I did it to try and escape the inconsistent treatment I was receiving from my mentally ill mother (mind, she wasn't abusive, she really just couldn't take care of me, it was too much for her, and it showed, apparently.)

I was placed in state custody when I was 5, and my first home was a emergency shelter, I was there for a year. To be honest, I really don't recall daydreaming too much when I was there, we were pretty busy doing things a lot of the time, there were plenty of kids to play with.

However, what I can recall and what is reality are two different things, of course. I suspect I daydreamed a lot
more than I can remember. I was actually diagnosed with a serious mental illness (wrongly, I might add) so, I
bet I was daydreaming all the time:/

When I was placed in a foster home at he age of 7, I managed to daydream with a vengeance, because the foster family didn't communicate with us foster kids at all, only to tell us what to do, or yell at us for some infraction.

We were pretty much seen and not heard, I guess...or that was what they wanted. A lot of the time, they would be happy if we weren't seen, either. So, in order to make sense of it all, daydreaming was my escape. It may well have been a necessary evil for someone like me....but, sad to say, it wasn't healthy. I was in that home for 10 years, and when I finally got out and went to a group home, the damage was done...took years to therapy to get
my brain even half right, meh.

When you are conditioned to pretty much live life in your head 85% of the time growing up, it's pretty damn hard to undo the damage, so to speak. There have been times in my life where I have managed to stop daydreaming for years, only to have to struggle with it again...the trick (for me) is to keep busy with life, by any means possible....as soon as I have enough free time, poof.....I am back in my own head. It's just horrible....

My constant struggle is this....see, the people I think about, usually...or almost always...are people I know, or know of. That in itself is a f'n nightmare. One person I daydream about-I seem to be obsessed with finding out shit about them (they are somewhat in the public eye....not famous or anything like that, mind....but..) -yeah. I just wish I could stop:(

I don't know if this helps you or not....but, there it is. I say....keeping busy is the key. Now if I could only take my own damn advice....

[Boogman]

Neither myself nor my fiance (also a daydreamer) were abused or experienced trauma either. In fact, our respective childhoods were quite good. I have no idea why we developed it, and hopefully future research will shed some light on it.

[greyartist]

Maybe brain chemistry. I didn't have any excessive daydreams until I was 45, they came along with anxiety, depression, hot flashes and more. Hormon levels effect the brain's chemistry in many ways. Maybe we all are predisposed to it, just different triggers start it. 

[Emily]

I know for a fact that not all daydreamers have miserable pasts. I, for example, have had a great childhood. No one close to me has died, I've never been abused, life's been fabulous. And now I've hit this point in my life. I hate high school. I already went through a lot in 8th grade (I've never opened up to people and the one year that I did things fell apart). My MD has really been beating up on me and my procrastination caused by this has only gotten worse. My parents are being difficult and I hate them right now. I have all honors classes and it just seems like too much! Yeah, I do want a life for once. I dd to get away from school and the idiots that go there. When I hate my life (and trust me I do) I dd to get away to the "people" that love me, not the overbearing losers. Being with people who understand me helps get me through the day. If I didn't have them or my worlds, I'd have nothing.

[Tatyana]

I think I daydream because my parents have been the overprotective types resulting in them isolating me a bit. I have friends, don't get me wrong, but my parents are very overprotective of who I'm with at all times reusulting in me being home most of the time, resulting in being bored and lonely, finally resulting in escaping into the world daydreaming for comfort, I guess. That's my opinion. I still manage to get things done though, as of now. I'm almost a straight A student and have time for studying and relationships what not, but I think I could achieve so much more if I just stopped daydreaming all together.