Are We Transgressors?

[Lauren M]

Transgress |transˈgres; tranz-|
verb [ trans. ]
infringe or go beyond the bounds of (a moral principle or other established standard of behavior) : ex. "she had transgressed an unwritten social law | [ intrans. ] "they must control the impulses that lead them to transgress."

Maybe we're supposed to be talking to actual people and not creating people to act like we're talking to (or thru). If you've read any of my other post you know that I grew up with siblings who also had wild imaginations because we were poor. We played with paper people, all three of us were very good at drawing so the people looked very real, they had all kinds of personalities, kids, jobs, break ups, make ups and different fates. Some would die in one game and then show right back up in the next. These were the "Kenny's" of the game. IN REALITY, that's not how death works! Once you die you're gone forever. The same with the characters we create. There are no perfect people. Everyone pisses people off. Everyone has flaws. We all lose sometimes. All of us aren't born to be popular and even those who become popular often do the dumbest sh*t to get noticed. We all get lonely. MDing only reinforces the belief that there are perfect people, perfect worlds and perfect conversations etc. That's why it's MALADAPTIVE- not providing adequate or appropriate adjustment to the environment . We live on a planet with billions of other people for a reason. Not so that we just ignore each others existence but to mingle, love, hate, fight, get beat up, kick ass, throwup, get a job, stalk someone (don't get thrown in jail), be stalked...call the cops, contradict yourself and love it. There are already billions of people to talk to. So, why do we act as if they don't exist and instead we create people? They are always unrealistic and only hurt our relationships with real people because our expectations are way too freakin' high. No one in real life is going to be like the characters in our make believe worlds. You may meet one and that person will probably be an ass when you really get to know them. Consider the movie Ruby Sparks (2012). Note how once she became a real person she did things Calvin didn't like. As a transgressor, he just kept rewriting her personality. Is it even normal to have that kind of power? Is it normal to live in a world where everyone does everything your way? Calvin eventually let her go. He allowed her control over her own life and they ended up meeting each other again anyway. Maybe we can learn something from this movie. If we stop creating people, we'll probably meet people like them in real life and even though they won't be perfect, they'll be real. They'll party with you and bring you soup when you're sick. Real people can do that. Fantasy people just give us false hope.

[Sammy]

Yes. People come in all different shapes and sizes. Everyone has a different personality. And precisely, a wide diversity of opinions.

[Lauren M]

Life can't be the way you want it, and if you stay away from the false fantasies of your mind and fake people and focus on the people of real life and real life people, then you will be more accustomed to the life that you are supposed to live.

Girl, you are totally right!

[Lauren M]

Thanks for reading, Samantha! I'm on my way out of this thing. As soon as I get out I'll try to pull others out as well.

However, let me share something with you. Today I woke up with a clear conscience. I've been texting and talking to people all morning. Instead of being bothered by people, I see communication with others as an extraordinary thing. Anyone can create a fantasy perfect conversation within self but, real life is where the funniest and most thought provoking things are said.

A challenge happened today. About 4 hours ago, I was at a Dollar General store standing in the checkout line, a very slow line. As I reached the front of the line, a girl who was standing around decided she would go straight to the checkout and take my turn. The people behind me were like WTF? I told her, look there's a line here. The girl explained that she only had a small number of things and she thought I told her she could go first.lol After explaining to her that she clearly misunderstood whatever she thought I said, I just let her go. Then some guy behind me wanted to stand up for her by saying, yea I think you nodded for her to go in front of you. I told him I thought it was strange how people see what they wanna see and hear what they wanna hear. He immediately became defensive and started mumbling things under his breath about how tough his city is and how no one there takes any shit. I just ignored him. I'm pretty sure these two individuals in the store do not reflect the behavior of most humans. It takes wisdom to know when you're experiencing isolated cases of idiocy. You can't be pissed at all humanity because a few human interactions piss you off. It's no reason to go on fantasizing. Just keep talking to other people. Keep experiencing real life.

[Sammy]

That is so true. Life can't be the way you want it, and if you stay away from the false fantasies of your mind and fake people and focus on the people of real life and real life people, then you will be more accustomed to the life that you are supposed to live. It is true and that is a great lesson to tell people. This post should have more comments.