Negative Daydreamers?

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Comment by Brandy AZ Chase on December 5, 2012 at 10:43pm

Poopsie Holbrook:      I feel for you and I'm sorry he did that to you.  You need to really work on clensing all that pent up anger and hurt out of your soul, about him and what he did to you. I know you feel more powerful when you daydream you are putting him in his place. Normally I wouldn't advise you to take it easy as they can be therapudic, but I have two kids and have of course gone through two pregnancies.  That is not the best time to be having all that negative emotion swirling in you.

My second preg. was a misserable time in my marriage and my son was born with a lot of attitude and extra need to be nurtured, oh God, it was a lot of work!!! I think my constant daily crying and pain affected him while he was developing and i still have to handle his sensitivity to pain,fear, ceratin tones of voice, and he's 5 now. So i REALLY reccomend you try to purge those dark feelings while your preg or shove them to the back of your mind to be dealt with later and try to give yourself some new uplifting DDs. Everytime it tries to come up. Quash it down with a verbal cue; like "No, you wont come into the peaceful circle of my baby." etc.... your baby's health is utmost important and wasting your time and energy on that worthless cheating man isn't worth it.

I hope you can find peace.  Msg me anytime you need :)

Comment by SwanInTheWater on November 21, 2012 at 5:39am

Oh man. I wish I had seen this group before I made a post on the exact same thing. Oops.

Anyway I have had negative daydreams, about arguing with people or about my mental illness becoming drastically worse. But I don't daydream negatively very often and when I do they are brief.

I wonder, if we are not using all our daydreams as an escape, then why do we do it?

Comment by Poopsie Holbrook on August 7, 2012 at 8:34pm

I recently had a divorce, my husband cheated on me a lot. so now my daydreams are violent and demeaning him. at this point its very not healthy and now I'm pregnant with a new guy. He works nights me days so I'm alone and I'm worried the heart rate thing after those lost moments are not good for the baby.

Comment by Roobles on June 1, 2012 at 10:16am

Yes my dd are negative and aggressive. Killings often happen. But I also have a lovely dd that is not but my main and most occasional one is ver much so.

Comment by Bibby on May 8, 2012 at 7:56pm

I realized one day that I was producing invasive emotions with this kind of daydreaming.  I started to tell myself to find something else to daydream about and leave off the one that was raising such strong feelings in me.  A long time ago, an elderly man told me that daydreams are fine so long as they don't make me cry.  I've gotten better at not getting so deep into negative daydreams but there are times that they still happen.  I don't get mad at myself when it happens.  Rather I take note of how I've been feeling or the events in my life in the week leading to the daydream.  This gives me clues on how to deal with specific triggers.

Comment by Ivy C. on May 7, 2012 at 3:40pm

Yes! In one daydream I have, my main character has been betrayed by his only  friend, is forced into a prostitution ring, and is sexually abused and raped on a daily basis. He's also a prisoner trapped in a stranger's house. In another one of my dreams, my main character has been rejected by her friends, lost her husband from dark secrets coming to life, and is an outcast to society. Even though my daydreams are negative, however, there is always a semi happy ending where the main character is saved and loved by those closest to them.

Comment by Jack F. on December 7, 2011 at 3:16pm

I've daydreamed my main character's life story so far. It involves being abandoned by his parents as a child, getting mugged, losing friends, relatives dying, brother getting raped, being charged with murder, house fires and having to move across the world to escape his past. But, there are 1 or 2 positive moments in there too!

Comment by Jared on October 26, 2011 at 8:33pm

Almost all of my daydreams are pre or post apocalyptic. In rare circumstances, I spend a couple of days in an apocalyptic setting.

Comment by Destiny Lund on September 12, 2011 at 7:11am

YES, nearly all of my daydreams are negative & if they aren't, they're extremely theatrical & ostentatious.  Examples of things I daydream about:  My fiance's slow death, violent sexual acts, acts of extreme martyrdom, futuristic governments collapsing with humans striving to survive all the controversy, very neurotically depressing scenarios, supernatural/Sci-Fi, slow death of others including myself, etc.  The characters in my daydreams most of the time are people I know, sometimes I make characters up, but I'm always 1 of the main characters.  Sometimes I will wake up crying & convulsing from nightmares because I will dream about what I daydreamt about earlier that day but more intense.

Comment by Katherine on September 9, 2011 at 1:18pm

I imagine I have been through tough events or others have.  I imagine my fantasy husband dies ... very weird I know, but I think it's because I have had to deal with abandonment in my life and by imaging a loved one who's died I can focus the real grief I have on an imaginary scenary where it wasn't someone's choice to leave.

I don't think I am an emotionally/mentally strong person so by imaging that I've been through bad things I can pretend that I am a tough cookie who can deal with bad things.  Also I think I channel some of my real life negative emotions into the fantasy:  I haven't worked out all my issues yet, I'm not in touch with myself at all, so it's easier pretending a reason for how I feel to deal with the effects.

I hope this makes some sort of sense!

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