Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
Feelings that the lives of everyone around you are progressing/have progressed much faster than yours? While you have been wasting away in you're MD world...
Surprise at how far people your age or younger have come with their life experiences compared to you, in the same amount of time or less?
I feel like this a lot... :C
Things like...
Waking up and realizing I'm the only person at school without a smart phone, when a couple years mine was one of the most common phones.
Realizing I'm the only person in a group of like, 20 who hasn't been to a certain club or gone to another country with their friends or something.
Waking up and realizing 80-90% of people my age aren't virgins, when just a couple years ago it was 50%.
Etc.
Comment
I hear what you're saying, and I have felt that way too. Recognize that it is a very self-defeating attitude. No matter what, others who don't daydream are automatically light years ahead of you in life? But where does that leave you, or anybody who daydreams for that matter?
Basically you should not compare yourself to other people, because you will never be them and they will never be you. Literally all you can do in life is appreciate yourself, and appreciate others. Life is not a great big race to some finish line. It is about experience. Both external AND internal experience. So don't discount your daydream life as a "waste". Feel good about the daydreaming you have done because it has brought you to the realizations and outlook you have today.
At the same time, realize that daydreamers are very lucky people because they get to walk both sides of the coin in life. We can have all the things non-daydreams have AND we can have our daydreams.
I used to feel this way but not anymore. Just because another person has gotten a driver's license, went to another country, gone to parties, and lost their virginity doesn't mean they're automatically more mature than me. In these categories there are lots of immaturity going on. I also don't own a smartphone because I can't afford one and don't have need for one at this time. It's ok to take life at your own pace.
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