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MatthewR commented on Jessica Ballantyne's blog post Learned my lesson
"Hi Jessica, I hope you're doing better now. I think the important thing for us is to realize that we've still got life left enough to make some changes. True, we've been at this for most of our lives, but it doesn't have to end…"
Jul 15
MatthewR liked Jessica Ballantyne's blog post Learned my lesson
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MatthewR commented on Nikki K's blog post This is who I am...
"Welcome to WM! I, too, would rather manage MD than get rid of it completely. I've been doing this all my life. What was a childhood distraction became a life-long bad habit. It gets the better of me more times than not, unfortunately. Like you,…"
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MatthewR commented on Fallen Messenger's blog post Not living up to my idealized self
"I think we're all living under the shadow of our ideal self. No matter what we do, it'll never be good enough. I sympathize with how you feel. I remember feeling despair over the unattainable life i had created for myself back in school.…"
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MatthewR commented on Alison's blog post Real Life Achievments
"i know what you mean about the anxiety taking over. It leaves you paralyzed. Daydreams offer a sense of relief when the tension becomes unbearable. For me, the anxiety is always present, and it makes deciding on something ridiculously more difficult…"
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MatthewR liked Alison's blog post Real Life Achievments
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MatthewR commented on Jessica Ballantyne's blog post Success is all in your drive and your mind power
"True. At some point, we must have become disconnected from reality, but our minds continued to produce fantasies of an ideal life. Everything else--our bodies, our social lives, our future--got left behind. We're alive in our heads only, and…"
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MatthewR liked Jessica Ballantyne's blog post Success is all in your drive and your mind power
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MatthewR replied to Sally's discussion I am Lost: MD, weed and sadness
"Hello, Sally. My experiences at university were similar to yours. I also felt depressed and anxious, and I procrastinated a lot. Our daydreams give us a false sense of what we want and who we really are. We imagine only the ideal versions of…"
Jun 18
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MatthewR liked SamJ's blog post Feeling lonely and confused
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Fear and the Real Reason I Daydream

Posted on March 26, 2017 at 9:11pm 10 Comments

This is a long post, but here it goes...

Dd’ing is something i’ve done all my life. I started when i was 4 or 5 and just kept doing it. It’s fine for a child but problematic for an adult.

This is not to say that daydreaming is bad, but that dd’ing excessively serves a purpose that is unhealthy for me. Daydreaming is a way to get what i want without trying, to have great moments in my imagination without risking rejection, and to feel powerful without any…


The 3 Kinds of Daydreamers

Posted on March 24, 2017 at 9:45pm 12 Comments

This is just something from observation, but i get the impression that there are 3 kinds of people on this site:

  1. Neurotic Daydreamers - these are the dd’ers who are closest to the “maladaptive” definition. They use daydreams to sustain an idealized sense of self that compensates for low self-esteem, essentially “growing on the useless side of life” because these daydreams don’t improve our situation; they unconsciously serve to spare us the pain of real emotion and the…

Has Anyone Taken Paxil (Paroxetine)?

Posted on August 3, 2014 at 6:59pm 5 Comments

In the past couple of weeks I have been seeing a doctor for major depression, anxiety - especially social anxiety disorder. I also fit the profile of someone with an avoidant personality. When i was discussing my symptoms to the doctor I described my excessive compulsion to fantasize, how i pace, and how i can't focus sometimes because my urge to daydream is so powerful. My doctor didn't seem as interested in Maladaptive Daydreaming but assumed it was an aspect of being socially avoidant. I…


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At 6:09pm on April 1, 2015, Machelle Irby said…

Matthew.... you there???

At 6:18am on November 29, 2014, Adria Nolis said…

Hey :) Yeah, it's from Dreamfall


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