Maladaptive Daydreaming: where wild minds come to rest
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I understand exactly how you feel. Sporadically, people leave my forum in droves. It's hard not to take it personally. I found myself walking on eggshells when posting there for fear that it was going to rub someone the wrong way. I would rarely get any replies which would make me feel worse. But I get what you are saying. Intellectually, I think you know it's not about you but emotionally it feels that way. I get it completely. :-) I think you do an excellent job here and I appreciate all the work you do on this site.
Been away from the site for a while but back now and wanted to respond.There is a lot said here that I agree with.Online communities(like any big community)are going to contain people with differing views and sensitivities.It is inevitable that sooner or later there's going to be a clash.It's a real shame that people feel they need to leave the site rather than just take time to cool off or understand what has been said.However none of us can ultimately be responsible for others actions.Cordelia-this is a wonderful site that helps and supports so many people.Try to focus on the majority who stay rather than the few who aren't able to be helped yet.
As for those who don't get a response from a post/blog.I agree it feels dreadful and very personal sometimes,especially if you have posted as a way of getting support.My experience of this site is that it is full of caring people who will support you but sometimes you need to let us know you need us and sometimes it just takes time.Please don't be disheartened.
I really appreciate this site. Luckily I don't usually ruffle anyone's feathers because I just hate upsetting people. Now that is also a character flaw because people should be able to feel comfortable stating their opinion (respectfully of course) and feel secure that those listening will be aware enough not to freak out. I need to work on being a little more assertive. When people come together online it is so different than meeting in person. Add to that the fact that most of us aren't the biggest social experts to begin with. So open dialouge and understanding come in handy. I haven't interacted with anyone here who has been the least bit rude to me. On other sites (not mding sites) the flaming wars are atrocious. The moderators apparently don't care. I hardly ever post on other types of boards because I am afraid to get flamed by someone. I don't know why anyone would want to leave, maybe something is going on in their lives, maybe they want to stop dding so badly that they need to erase all of their possible triggers. Sometimes people get depressed and try to drop out of the radar. I'm staying here :-) All we can do is wish them well on their journey.
Cordellia, I have a feeling that we probably will disagree on a lot, like A LOT... That doesn't change the fact that I have a lot of respect for you,. I think you are freaking awesome and you like cats, people who like cats (and are concerned for their well being) are good people!
I will take brutal honesty any day over faked politeness. One of the things I love the most about this site, is that we are honest, there is no pretending, no mask... Just us being ourselves, I spend a lot of my time feeling like I'm hiding in plain sight. but not when I'm on here... thank you!
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